What can i do about excess "baggage" left from gaining a lot of weight during pregnancy and a c-section?

Question

I'm only 18 years old and i have an almost 5 monthold daughter. I gained 50 pounds straight out in front while pregnant and i had to have c-section because my 8 pound 10.5 ounce baby got stuck in the top of my hips. I'm only 5 foot 2 inches tall and i feel like i am completely disfigured. some ppl tell me to exersize others tell me that surgery is the only way to go. I dont know what to do. im starting college in september, i work everyday i don't have much self-esteem at all and i have no sex drive. My b/f is mad @ me for not wanting sex, cuz i don't even want to look at myself, and theres no help there. I just need some advice from others who are in, or have been in my shoes.

Answer 1

Still having the weight is normal after 5 months. My son was born in March and I still can't fit into my clothes. Please- PLease don't think of having surgery on your body. Not that I'm against it- but at 18 you will bounce back. Give yourself more time. As far as dieting. If you are nursing you should still be taking in an extra 100 calories a day. Make sure you eat healthy eaither way. You are teaching your daughter whats good for her body. As far as excerising. Put your daughter in her stroller or carry her around. It's great for babies to get out and have fresh air. Just 15 minutes a day helps them sleep better. You are her example. How you feel about yourself will rub off on to her. So now on to the sex. I'll tell you after having a c-section I didn't even want to hear the word sex. My bidy hurt. The insision(sp) is still numb, and yes my body is not where it used to me. I read in in article though that the guys don't really care what you look like. They did see you pregnant, they saw the delivery and it's prob. been months since they've had any. They don't need the "whoo-ing" we need to "whoo" our self. It will come back. (Atleast I'm hoping to- cause I'm in the same boat!) Who takes care of your daughter while your at work? Is that person someone you can talk to-if you aren't already? You may be suffering from post pardom depression. Talk to your Dr. or even your daughters Dr. can offer some advice. You may also want to check out your community for mothers groups. They usually have on-line support, babsiiting co-ops, nights out, excerise groups, playgroups (even on Saturdays).
If you'd like to talk to me some more- email me... okay!?!

Take care- and don't worry about the bod.

Answer 2

I have been there 4 times. The having babies part. So i know what that feels like. I've never had a c-section before, though. I hear that it does take longer to get your body back after a c-section. Don't sweat it though. Because your only 18, your body will bounce right back. IT'S ONLY BEEN 5 MONTHS!!! Give yourself some slack. An 8 pound baby is a huge strain on your body. I'm sure that your metabolism will pick right back up soon. Maybe you should be checked out for post-partem depression. That will make you feel sluggish as well. You are a mommy now, so you are beautiful!!! I would say, if in about a year, if you haven't lost at least half of the weight, then stress it. But I bet that you will lose it all. Give yourself some time. ESPECIALLY when that baby starts walking!! You won't have time to sit. Put the little one in the stroller and go for a walk. And having sex burns allot of calories. Just leave the lights off. I'm sure he's so sexually frustrated right now, he wouldn't even care if you weighed 300lbs! ;o) Go easy on yourself. Like i said, at 18, your metabolism is at a good speed, you'll lose the weight with just a little bit of excersise, and healthy eating! Good luck kiddo!!!

Answer 3

It is true that if you really want to lose that belly you HAVE to do
some sort of excercise and dieting. Not starving, just watch
how much you eat. Because the fat will get burned off while
working out. I say the best thing to do is go to a gym. Or go
jogging, or buy some home videos....I had the same problem
at first after my first child. I lost the weight and I looked good in
bikini again. So can you!! Don't get discouraged..Be determined
And buy a bull length mirror too. Listen to music as you work
out to the tapes, etc. Buy some light weights to strengthen your
abs, arms ,legs ( buy wrap around leg weights) with those you
lay on you back and bend you knees to your belly ( however is
comfortable ) this helped me. Best of luck....

Answer 4

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Answer 5

i understand totally. i'm 25, i had my first at 19. i went from weighing 130 to 180 then i got down to 150 and had another one when i was 21. went from 150 to 195 i think...it was so bad that i tried to forget the actual number but it was somewhere around there. this is what i've read and heard, exercize and eat right, cut your calories to about 1100 or so a day and drink more milk and water. you can consult a reconstructive surgeon if you have those kinds of questions but my cousin looked into a tummy tuck and they said she had to lose weight first. i have about 40 pounds to go to get to my prepregnancy weight (from 6 years ago). good luck and i hope this helps!

Answer 6

exercise & diet..or if you can afford it...do the surgery.