my best friend has a boyfriend and he is going out with her so he can be closer to me. what should i do?
2006-07-31 09:25:57 · 63 answers · asked by Sexy*Chicka 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thats awful. going out with him or even giving him the time of day would be like backstabbing your friend if he's gonna be like that. you gotta tell your friend the truth. if your really as close as it sounds than she will believe you
"bestfriends a forever..boyfriends are whatever.." lol
2006-07-31 09:29:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 14⤊ 5⤋
You should tell your best friend what is going on but be sure that you are sure of these allegations. This is a touchy situation. Distance yourself from them as a couple. Don't put yourself in situations where you have to be alone with him. If he calls you, record the conversation for proof. Document his pursuit of you. If you value your friendship, don't fool around with him. Guys come and go. Best friends are there for the long run.
2006-07-31 09:32:48 · answer #2 · answered by intentionalmasterpiece 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just know once you have anything to do with this guy that your friendship will be over, and possibly with both if he is just leading you on. Has he left your friend or are they still together? I would tell him that he leaves her first so it doesn't look like you are the one that broke them up, and if she is really her friend you should know how she feels about this guy. She is going to be hurt if she really loves him. Really give it a lot of thought before doing anything.ak
2006-07-31 09:33:41 · answer #3 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Difficult situation, but simple solution, you have to put an end to it soon....It is your best friend, and you need to let this guy know that as long as he is using your best friend, you cannot respect him, he is using her, with no regard for her feelings in the end, would you allow this to go on if the guy was NOT interested in you, but someone else close to her?? Would you allow him to use her? Of course not, So do something ASAP.
2006-07-31 09:34:47 · answer #4 · answered by Becky L 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should first of all talk it out with him make sure hes not just tryin to get in your pants. Next bring it up with your best friend and ask her what she would do if that happened. If you feel this is somthing that is gonna hurt or end your friendship end it now with him (TALKING), if you have feelings for him dont do anything just play him off all the time, that should work. And ask him how he could do this to your friend. Other than that just do what feels rite to you.
2006-07-31 09:34:37 · answer #5 · answered by Adrian N. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you sure that he is in love with you. Did those words actually come out of his mouth? I am dating your friend because I am in love with you? If that is the case not only would I tell your friend but I would let her handle how she wants to deal with her boyfriend. Their relationship is their business but I would definitely stay away from him and away from the situation. Make sure the reason they break up is because of them not because of anything you said or did. That can sometimes come back and slap you in the face. If tries to make a move on you I would try my best to avoid it or B*tch slap him. Best of luck!
2006-07-31 09:32:45 · answer #6 · answered by sweetcaraline_27 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would avoid him at all cost and you can't tell your best friend about it cause she will always be self conscience and jealous about you being around her boyfriends, just ignore him and avoid him like the plague and if you like him you can never tell him so until they break up and she moves on, then maybe you can talk to her about it and see how she would feel about you dating her ex but only until then.............and that is only if you want to continue being best friends with her
Beware and good luck
2006-07-31 09:31:18 · answer #7 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who do you value more? Your best friend or her boyfriend?
Problem is if you tell her she may not believe you or think you're trying to break them up.
Tell him there's no way you're going ruin your friendship with best friend and ask him to respect this. Hopefully, your friend will eventually learn he doesn't really care and is just using her.
2006-07-31 09:30:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If shes your best friend, do you really want to wreak your friendship over a *guy*? If this guy likes you so much how come he didnt ask YOU out instead of your friend? Hes not worth it girlfriend, guys are a dime a dozen, but true freinds are hard to find. Id tell this guy that its not cool to toy with your freinds feelings and i wouldnt bother with him unless you want to hurt your best friend.
2006-07-31 09:33:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You already know whats right and whats wrong. Is this guy worth losing a best friend. What would you do if the role was reversed and it was your best friend in your position. Wouldn't you want to know?
2006-07-31 09:31:24 · answer #10 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you know this for a fact and you love your bestfriend then you need to let her know. You dont want a guy to come between you and your friend. especially a coward and thats what he is. If he wants you then he should have just asked you out first not date your friend just to get close to you. that **** aint cute ; its cowardly and he should be out of both of your lives because you both could probably do better.
2006-07-31 09:30:51 · answer #11 · answered by starr 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋