after a 3 year relationship i am having problems?

Question

i've been out of the relationship for a couple months now and its harder for me to get women. Back in the day i never had problems getting women. When im out with a crowd, i'm not like i was, i'm sorta dead, like i have a very shallow personality, but i really don't. I just don't feel comfortable. has anyone else had this problem? It may just take me some time to get my magic working again, hope something happens soon!!

Answer 1

Long term relationships that fail can do that to you.

My previous engagement ended badly, and it changed me too. My fiancee' cheated on me at least twice. I had no problems dumping her, but I became very cynical of women afterwards. I was mean to every woman I went out with, and I didn't realize it. It took a friend of mine to point it out, which was the start of my, so called, healing process.

I never really completely reverted to my previous self, because I never want to repeat what I went through. I was able to become a nicer person to women a short time after I realized my faults.

The moral of the story: Things that happen to you in your life will lchange you, and sometimes forever. The better you know yourself, the better you can see the problems and fix them. You already know what's wrong with you, and you probably know what you need to do to fix it. You just need to do it.

Good luck to you!

Answer 2

I haven't been on a situation like that, but I do know that if you are out of a long time relationship, it takes time to make a new one because you are often thinking and comparing the previous one with the one you don't even know so that's the problem. You need to let go completely in order to make another successful relationship.
All the best.

Answer 3

I think the first thing you should do is not refer to it as "magic" or "getting women". Do you want to get women or do you want to meet a woman? My suggestion is just to think about who you are and what you want, and try to look at things positively. Before you even take a step out of your front door, determine right there and then that you're going to just have a good time tonight - it will do wonders for you.