Going back to work?

Question

I havent worked in 2 years and I am totally ready to work again....my son is 9 months and i am also 21 weeks pregnant again. I would love to stay at home with my son but our finances just wont allow it now. I have no friends or family where I live...they all live 1300 miles away so i have to put my son in a home daycare. I start Wednesday and I thought I would be ok with it but now I'm gettin really nervous and feeling really guilty that Im going to be working full time and only spending part time with my son....plus i feel bad that I have to pay someone to take my son all day that prolly dont really care to have him there. What kind of experiences do you have with this and what did you do to cope with the guilt and worry???

Answer 1

Hopefully it is worth you going back to work, with the money situation and all! If you end up going back you aren't going to be at work but for another 19 weeks. Then you are going to be on maternity leave... but then the real question rises is are you going to be able to afford to put 2 children into daycare??? You might just have to stay at home them anyways!

I couldn't bare to go back to work because of the same reason... why is someone going to want to watch my son?? Some people are really good and love to do it... but others just do it for the money! I decided since I always heard of all those stories of people being mean or not looking after or shaking your children that I wanted to be the one to take care of my son... no one else!! The only time I am going to allow him to go into daycare is when I go back to school to finish my degree.. and even at that he is going to be on the campus daycare :O)

I think to deal with guilt and worry you just have to be in the situation and see how you really are going to feel...you never know you might be fine after it really happens!

Answer 2

I think many mothers feel guilty about going back to work and having to put their child in day care. But as long as the child is safe and well cared for, you have done the right thing.

How do you cope? Quality verses quantity is the key to spending time with your son! When you get home from work, start a special routine to spend that quality time. Spent time in the bath or reading a book (yes even at 9 months) or sining a song. Your son's value system at this age are time with his Mother, and he does not realize how long but that Mom is there. Continue the same pattern on your days off.

And, during your break you could call your son and check to make sure you know he is fine. Love for a child is powerful but the need to pay bills is strong.

I suggest you reach out to find a local parenting group, many times through the County support hospital association. Or, ask your pediatrician. My sister in law found a play group that eventually developed into a social group for the parents. Remember, you are an individual and not jointed at the hip to your child.

Answer 3

Well, I think u should wait 2 start working again especially if ur pregnant 'cause the money that u earn is gonna go 2 the daycare.

Answer 4

I battled with my contious about working with a family but you cant live with little cash coming in, can you not share your work load with your partner if you have one, my husband and i work opposite shifts all week but we keep weekends for the family for example visiting family and freinds eating out, going to the park not spending much money really. we also do no housework, cooking or cleaning the weekend it is totally family time hope this helps

Answer 5

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