i need help not eww. i know it gross and i am ashamed. but i kissed my younger ( only by like 2 years) cousin. well i didnt actually kiss him. he kinda kissed me. he lives far away and im trying to forget about him but its hard. we were both upset over boy/girlfirneds so i think it was just experimenting but its weird almost like a crush i guess. i dotn want to be a nasty person please O please help mee!! sex isnt possible and were younger like still in teens okay. thanks
2006-07-31 08:48:28 · 30 answers · asked by L o 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
hes coming to stay for a few weeks. idk if i can jsut forget that easy..and that soon.
2006-07-31 08:53:59 · update #1
i need more advice people =[
2006-07-31 11:14:34 · update #2
just accept what happened, and put it in your past. you can't change what you did, so just let it go. you'll be fine, it's not as big of a deal as you are trying to make it.
2006-07-31 08:50:52 · answer #1 · answered by Green-eyed Nikki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, don't even worry about. You're still in your teens? This won't even bother you in a month, 6 months, a year.
You're not gross, you're not sick, and there's nothing wrong with you--and you are DEFINITELY NOT a nasty person!
I had a crush on a guy I met once, and we hung out and kissed one teeny kiss once, but then I found out that, by some weird, distant relation, I was related to him. I freaked out at first, but then I realized it wasn't something I needed to worry about. The next time I saw him, I realized that I didn't like him as much as I thought I did.
Don't worry about it, just realize that you can't do anything about it unless you guys are not immediate cousins.
I hope this helps!
2006-07-31 08:59:09 · answer #2 · answered by Bachman-ette 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do that can change the fact that you kissed your cousin. The good thing is, that's all you did. The other good thing is, is that you know you shouldn't have done it. So forget about it, and just make up your mind to not let it happen again. Everyone makes mistakes.....that's how we learn some important things in life. Just learn from the mistake, and don't do it anymore. You'll be fine.
2006-07-31 08:57:11 · answer #3 · answered by typicalguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truth be told you are not the only person that this has happend to and your feelings are not strange. Don't worry in time your "crush" will die off at the first cute boy that notices you. And I understand this has nothing to do with sex. Sometimes this thing just happens. But if the chance should come up again where you two are alone just remember you are relatives.
2006-07-31 08:56:28 · answer #4 · answered by DREA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay kissing cousin, I suggest that you find another somone to occupy that airspace. Okay kiss and don't tell...just giggle! Hey I did it once, but not a good idea to consider any kind of relationship, you are family. If you need to discuss it, try a therapist. Elvis sang a song and did a moviE about this, maybe there is a suggestion there.
But really YOU SHOULD just forget about it!
2006-07-31 08:55:50 · answer #5 · answered by Tweek 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have first cousins who married. It was odd, the family had a hard time with it at first.
There are some places where it is legal. I can't remember where they went to get married.
Of course they can not have children, so he had a little "snip snip" done.
I'm not saying you should go for it...just know that it's not completely WRONG.
If you are really against it, then tell him and do not allow yourself to be alone or in a vulnerable place with him.
The website link gives you some information on which states allow or prohibit first cousin marriage. http://www.ncsl.org/programs/cyf/cousins.htm
2006-07-31 09:01:27 · answer #6 · answered by Deana G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i seem to have a similar problem... at one of my family reunions i learned that one of my cousins liked me. we are 3rd cousins so its kinda ok. well one day he held my hand and i didn't fight. he also tried some other things but i pulled away. i did not kiss him but i still felt awkward about it because i have a boyfriend! i feel horrible! don't worry so much. it is kind of normal to kiss cousins. i kiss mine all the time when i say good bye. but not as a crush kind of way. just relax and try to forget about it.
2006-07-31 08:55:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all kissing your cousin is just wrong and i'm not judging you and i know things happen when you get caught up but what's done is done and you can't change it but you need to move on and get those thoughts out ya head. Its a sin so just pray about it but I know that its not something that you should do again.
2006-07-31 08:55:14 · answer #8 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a term "Kissin Cousins" however, you have GOT to try to shake this out of your head. It is wrong to crush on your cousin, it is wrong to kiss them as more than a peck shared by family members.
My advice to you is to try to find things to occupy your time. Join a youth group somewhere, go to the library, and if you are into it, try church... all of these are great places to meet boys...
Good luck to you!
2006-07-31 08:59:20 · answer #9 · answered by Cutelilminxy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but no excuse is a good excuse for this. You both need to get some morals. We all can't just go around doing whatever we want.
2006-07-31 08:57:51 · answer #10 · answered by JW 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't understand why does everybody so against kissing cousin? why not? I don;t think it is an incest? Incest is only if you have sex with your mum, sister, brother or father. Cousin is not in the equation. I think it is also okay to marry your cousin. why not?
2006-07-31 09:27:25 · answer #11 · answered by jemmie_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋