How can you find out if you are adopted?

Question

I don't know if I'm adopted or not, and I want to find out. My parents obviously wont tell me. I know them, they would never tell me. So, is there any other way I could find out if I'm adopted or not? Besides the adoption certificate, because my father would kill me if I look through his stuff, where he keeps all his papers and all. So is there any other way I could find out? Please, I really need to know this! Please!!!!

I know my parents verry, verry well. If I will just go and ask them, they will laugh at me. They allways do that when I ask them something serious. Oh, and I'm only 13.

Answer 1

This must be a stressful situation for you. Clearly, you suspect that you are adopted (or that something is different). But, why do you think that you're parents won't tell you? I think most parents would if you asked them a point-blank, direct question like, "I really think that I am adopted; am I?"

If you really want to pursue this without your parents knowledge, you could order a copy of your birth certificate and see what it says. If you are adopted, there might be a clue there.

Also, you might try asking other family members: grandparents, aunts, or uncles. Any of them are likely to know. Also, you could check with your mom's best friend, or the next door neighbors if know who they were when you were brought home.

If none of that works, you could try to find out your blood type and your parents blood types. Say that it's for a school science project. If it doesn't match correctly (see the chart at the link below), you'll have some evidence that you can use to confront them. Blood type matching is not conclusive, though. If it doesn't match up, then you'll know that at least one of your parents isn't your genetic parent. If they do match up, you won't know anything because your birth parents might have the same blood types as your "allegedly" adoptive parents.

And, you could order a paternity test if you have $100 or so. You could collect the cells using the "school project" excuse.

Lastly, do you really want to do this. What if you uncover a secret that you'd really rather not know? Or that might hurt someone else? Example: What if you prove that your mom cheated on your dad and he never knew? What then?

Think about it.

Answer 2

Are you any different from them. Do you have any sisters or brothers that look like you. Tell your mom if not ask her a question about your childhood when you were a baby. Ask her about her pregnancy and see what she says. If that doesn't work ask any other family member who might know. It's not bad being adopted. Love your parents no matter what!

Answer 3

What I would do is try calling just any adoption agency and find out how you can find out if you were adopted or not. If the adoption was done legally then there has got to be some sort of database that has your name listed. good luck

Answer 4

Lots of kids feel this way, its usually not true at all. You are the kid, you don't know your parents as well as you think you do, I guarantee you that. Ask them, you can't say I want to know something and at the same time say I won't ask the people who have the answer and mean both of them.

Answer 5

i think of it relies upon on the context. The adoption became a 2nd in time, besides the undeniable fact that it additionally has ongoing consequences. once you're speaking appropriate to the previous and the activities surrounding how your new child entered your loved ones, "have been observed" is totally suitable. besides the undeniable fact that, whilst speaking approximately your youngster's modern-day actuality, i think of "are observed" is extra precise to the fact of the placement, with the aid of fact it is not something that basically ends whilst the paper is signed. Your new child will continually stay the actuality of a guy or woman who's observed, so "are observed" is better in an ongoing context. Which to apply relies upon on which area you are trying to place across on the time.

Answer 6

If you are not a minor, you could go to your nearest adoption agency to check it out or other family members. You should keep working on your parents and hopefully they will tell you the truth.
I hope it works out for you.

Answer 7

Hmmm....
Why do you think you are adopted?
Or do you just hope you don't turn out like your parents?
Firstly, information is not available to you if you are under the age of 18.
Otherwise, talk with your parents.
Good Luck!

Answer 8

Ok, So WHY do you think you are adopted? Without knowing any other name I don't see you finding out easily. Ask your mom and tell her how you feel and maybe if you are she will tell you !!! good luck!

Answer 9

sit down ur parents. tell them that you feel like u r adopted and state your reasons. if they won't tell you say something like this, "Look i know that u probably think that im not mature enough to handle this, but please, if i am adopted, i would like to know. i would want my real parents to be a part of my life." just try it. u never know until u ask.

Answer 10

If you feel like you can't talk to your parents go and ask another family member, but first think about why you sound like you want to be adopted and maybe talk to someone about that.

Good Luck