The minds of women; Sometimes I get friendly and comfortable with a woman and we have a tenderness between us?

Question

then I usually sometimes that that means I get to play with the goodies. But mostly it means I DON'T get to play with the goodies. What I been finding out is that most women have a very clear line between being friendly, tender and sweet and getting access to the goodies. Why is that?

Answer 1

Aaahhh, the goodies. We love the goodies.

You're fun.

Women are understandly protective of their goodies. Because when they give access to the goodies, they are opening up emotionally. They know they might attach, and they don't want to attach to things that will eventually do them more harm than good.

You may find you get more of the goodies when you can clearly show the women they will benefit more from your goody grabbing in the long run. If you can't clearly show them that, they'll probably continue to limit your access to the goodies.

Good luck with the goodies.

Answer 2

It could be that you are going for the goodies to early. Try an experiment with a woman, go for the friendly, tender and sweet and wait for her to hint around about sharing goodies and then move ahead in response to her desires.

Some women respond to the rough, tough, slam bam, thank ya ma'am guy, but that is a different personality. Your personality may not be fit for that kind of relationship.

Are you able to wait for it and take it as it comes? Will you commit to a longer relationship arc and stick to it come what may? If so, you may reap rewards beyond your dreams!