So, my girlfriend of 3 years and I broke up a while back. I'm looking to start dating again, but I don't think I'm financially prepared to start going on dates like dinners and what not. Firstly, this is because my car sucks. Like 15 years old and rusty sucks. Secondly, I don't have extra money to spend on dinners and romantic suprises (I really like to do these things, but I just can't financially right now!). I'm near to graduating college (about 6 months) but I don't want to wait that long to start dating. I do not want to meet people at bars (this is way too awkward to walk up to a total stranger who is with friends and start talking). My friends group is stagnant (which is a seperate problem :) so no help there. Is the internet my only alternative? Are all the girls on internet sites losers? If the internet is the only alternative, do I really have to pay for it to work out?
Sorry for the multiple questions, but I'm at a loss. Thanks for the answers ahead of time!
2006-07-31 08:42:28 · 5 answers · asked by daveyh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't meet girls at college?
I never went to college, but when I was in the military, guess where we'd go to meet girls...? College events, and college bars.
Anyway- you seem to know you're in college, so I'll move on.
The online thing is good, only because you can use it as a filter to only meet women who might be compatible with you.
I used to date on Lavalife, and I really enjoyed it. I got to meet many new and interesting women who I knew shared some basic beliefs of mine. This made things much easier to begin with.
I had some money, but I wasn't rich. I could feasibly afford one 'good' date every other week or so. But, I could afford a 'quick lunch' or some other type of social meeting (a walk on the beach, or through a park or something) which would just give us a chance to meet and talk a bit. I'd bring whatever she chose to drink (bottled water, soda, or wine) and we'd just walk and talk. It was a casual way to break the ice and if things went well, I'd ask her to a more-formal dinner date when I could afford it.
I met some cool girls, and a couple wierdos....but I had a lot of fun and laughs with all of them.
I married the best one of them...and we're still laughing a few years later.
2006-07-31 08:53:52 · answer #1 · answered by wrdsmth495 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u know what i did? i was in a long relationship rut after my ex in college... and i was having same problem, not meeting anyone at work or thru friends anymore, didn't go to church at the time or any other activities, so no chances there. so i did do internet dating for a bit.. and i realized something......: that I was a good catch! LoL.. sounds funny, but seriously. i was just practicing being myself w/ these strangers (they don't know me, what do i have to lose? i don't have to see them again). so i was just really nice, comfortable, myself, and the guys i met felt comfortable to talk w/ me, and i realized that they liked me right away, as a person, not just a girl! so in a way it boosted my ego a bit (i am typically shy and kind awkward and self conscious), and it helped me become comfortable around total strangers. i did end up dating one guy who was a total disaster (such a user, a horrible guy, a liar, a cheater), so i learned my lesson. i am a great catch, and i will NEVER let another person treat me that badly. so i just worked on myself, my appearance (exercise), and i kept up the confident mentality anywhere i went, and i just felt better about myself! once u look good and feel good, trust me people Want to set u up w/ their friends. also, i went to a birthday party and my friend's cousin was trying to talk to me and eventually became my bf... we broke up, but because i was "attractively confident" at the party, i caught his eye. so if u are confident person, u will attract people, and u will attract ur friends to set u up. if u are shy, and not good at talking..why would they introduce u to their friend?? be a great catch, and u will find a great catch. and u need to work on urself before u keep searching for someone else. :)
2006-07-31 08:52:27 · answer #2 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-01 03:22:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude... finish school.. get a job , get paid.... then date.... you just got out of a 3 yr relationship.... dont date yet... hang with friends.... relax...finish school... first things first
2006-07-31 08:46:52 · answer #5 · answered by pinksgirlfriend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋