I had class with this guy. After many days of small talk in he finally asked me to hang out after class with him and some of his friends. I ended up hanging out with him and his friends a lot and talking on the phone and texts over the next couple weeks. One evening I was with him and his friends drinking and we had sex. After that we didn't talk for about two weeks and he finally called and we started talking and hanging out again. Then we had sex a couple more times and I brought up the issue of if we were dating or what exactally we were. It was like he got scared and didn't talk to me anymore. He is still friendly and answers my texts and speaks to me on campus. I just don't know what happened was he just in it for sex or it he afraid of commitment. Before me he had been with 4 other girls and had only had sex 4 times ever. So what do you think should I try a little more to persue this or move on.
2006-07-31 08:40:25 · 24 answers · asked by meggie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is very new to this and it can be a commitment issue, I would be careful about pushing him into saying that you and him are committed and just say you and him are dating, Personally I wouldn't have let go so easily of what I had to offer( hint, hint). Slow it down and see where things go from here. Good luck.
2006-07-31 08:47:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
He does not have commitment issues. He was just having fun, especially since you two had sex right after you were drunk with other friends. He sees you as a cool person and since he was drunk, his hormones got the best of him. If you really like him and you think that he is the type of guy you would like to be in a relationship with then, tell him how you feel about him and ask him to tell you how he feels. If you don't want to have a relationship with him then consider the sex you had with him a one night stand the first time and booty call the other times. There is nothing wrong with being sexually active just as long as you are careful with what you are doing to your body,mind and soul.
2006-07-31 15:49:37 · answer #2 · answered by Maria L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've seen this happen to too many of my friends who are girls. The guy just wants sex. This is a very simple problem to find the answer to: Don't have sex with him until you get a straight answer! Lay out the options for him: 1) We are getting into a monogomous relationship 2) We are just sexual partners 3) We are just friends
Tell him to choose one of those. Do NOT have sex with him until he does. If you do, you will just regret it and be in the same situation you are in now. I guarantee that if you don't have sex with him until he makes a decision, this will be sorted out in under two weeks, and you will have peace of mind at the very least.
2006-07-31 15:49:39 · answer #3 · answered by daveyh 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move on, he is just in it for sex. Trust me! He may still be friendly, after all he got what he wanted. If you value your dignity and self worth, dog him! I am sure you are a nice person, and the fact that he did not want to date you, tells me otherwise! He has been with 4 other girls in what amount of time, don't buy what he is selling! I hope he see's this!
B~
2006-07-31 15:47:41 · answer #4 · answered by Tweek 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only for the sex hun.....listen who says you can't keep him as a booty call! Right? Start only texting him at like 2 o'clock bar call or calling him when your drunk "just to stop by and chat". The only thing is you have to be VERY nonchalant about the who ordeal...it's called playing the game. You're in college...you're there to learn....this is no different. The sex/relationship game will never go away in fact it will just get more intense as you get older....so may as well become a pro at it. Right?!
2006-07-31 15:46:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sex
2006-07-31 15:47:37 · answer #6 · answered by Jookemgood 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think he didn't have any expectations, I think that he thought you guys were just having casual sex. You should have been upfront if you wanted a relationship. I would say move on because it doesn't sound like he wants a relationship, but definitely don't have sex with him again unless you tell him that you want a relationship first!!! Good Luck!
2006-07-31 15:45:14 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are interested in him,I wouldn't give up just yet.As long as he is not using you.Try having a relationship without any sex with him and see what develops.Talk to him and tell him you didn't mean to scare him off,but you didn't want to hurt him by dating others IF that's what he wanted.Then maybe you'll know what kind of guy he is.You don't know all of his past,so maybe he does have issues,maybe he doesn't.BUT if you don't try to see,you'll never know.
2006-07-31 15:44:50 · answer #8 · answered by missyandgordon 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move on dammit!!!! I hate it when you girls, girls not women, get stuck into these little games with these kids. Drop this kiddie crap and find yourself a real man to respond to your needs. It was just sex. Let it go you deserve better.
2006-07-31 15:52:20 · answer #9 · answered by Bill F 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i think he was in it for sex and now u getting all serious on him he not looking for an realtionship he was liking for an kick it partner but then u want more so he have move on and u should do the same
2006-07-31 15:44:54 · answer #10 · answered by cowanelmo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋