2006-07-31 08:34:48 · 8 answers · asked by butnozzle 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I have done the stay at home thing (with a 5 year old and set of 1 1/2 year old twins) in the past and usually women seem to want me to tell of how them how I can't believe how hard it is. In true it was a breeze the only problem I had was I was so bored.
All the general parenting magazines (excluding father oriented magazines) are very pro-mom. They all poke fun at men and out inept we are when it comes to childcare.
The problem I have now that I am working is that after a hard day, I am put on "kid duty" as soon as I walk in the door so my wife can call off of her friends and such (What was she doing while they all napped - sure wasn't cleaning the house). I don't get time off to do anything. Even mowing the lawn requires that I "watch" at least one kid, because they all want to be where I am. Take them to the park or something.
I also think all the responses blasting me about this questions just goes to prove my point. How dare I even question the stay-at-home-mom? I must be a jerk
2006-07-31 08:47:57 · update #1
There was a show last summer where they had the father stay home and watch the kids and then sent mom to a spa to watch her husband fumble around. Why didn't they send her to do his job and so they could both see what the other was doing? Because no one cares about watching that end of it?
2006-07-31 08:50:14 · update #2
My hubby brings home the bacon, and he helps me around the house , and I do give him alot of credit. I think alot of guys who have never been home with a sick child, or had to sit for 3 hours in a waiting room at the Dr really don't have a clue what a SAHM does all day. Most think she gets to sit and watch TV and play on the computor. Yeah right! Raising kids is harder than any job out there. Most moms sacrifice material things to give their kids quality time and love.
2006-07-31 08:43:09 · answer #1 · answered by messijessi 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound bitter, and you sound like you and your spouse are not communicating really well. Maybe you both need some counseling.I take it that this isn't really not about us SAHM's. I love to be at home with my kids, it's a challenge and a reward, and it's never been a peice of cake nor have I found time to be "bored". I also work a part time job, and there's not words that describe what I do. I'm just very happy to have a husband who loves his kids and doesn't find his family a burden. He loves when his daughters follow him outside and watch him do what a man is supposed to be doing. He does his job without complaining and to me that's the greatest since he's the role model in their lives and they will choose a man similiar to their daddy when they grow up. I suggest that you think about your words and actions and make some life changes, stop playing the "poor me card" and start thanking God for all the blessings in your life because from the sounds of it you have MANY. Thank God for your beautiful wife and kids and that you have a job to go to, and come home from, many men out there would give their left arm for what you have. Be blessed!
2006-07-31 16:15:53 · answer #2 · answered by dixi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately, out of sight, out of mind. That's only one of the many things society does to familes. Dad's not at home, therefore he's not involved. Stupid isn't it?
Don't take it personal. some people feel stay at home mom's are lazy. I didn't really like being a stay at home mom, but that was my problem. I just felt too overwhelmed. There is so much freaking things to do as a stay at home mom. I'm less busier at work than i am at home.
Think of it this way, when you come home and your child's face lights up when he hears your car in the driveway, and you walk in that door....do you really care what anyone thinks because you paid for that car and pay the rent or the house your child gets to live in?
2006-07-31 15:44:56 · answer #3 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your credit should be the fact that you're working and bringing home money to provide for your family. You want people to give you credit for doing what you should do each day, get up go to work, do a job and come home?
2006-07-31 15:38:07 · answer #4 · answered by camoprincess32 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crap I feel bad for my wife She doesn't get a break she stays at home with our 3 boys all day she is never away from them. If I need a break from work I go home if I need a break from home I go to work where to the moms go???????
2006-07-31 15:40:26 · answer #5 · answered by burritosnme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trade places with a stay at home mom...then talk. I am a full- time mother, part-time employee and a full-time student and I am due with my third child in four weeks.
2006-07-31 15:40:38 · answer #6 · answered by sugermagnolia26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you expound on the question a little more. I am not sure that I understand.
2006-07-31 15:40:16 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because
2006-07-31 15:37:44 · answer #8 · answered by pontiac61231 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋