i have a crush on this guy and he is really nice but he is 4 years older than me and i have a great boy friend now. hwo can i tell if he likes me so i don't dump my bf and then he dosen't like me to leave me singel. what do i do?
2006-07-31 08:26:59 · 67 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Look at it this way
Is he worth dumping your current boyfriend to get a chance with?
if not then dont bother. Life has to be uncertain sometimes. if you think you will be happier with someone else then go for it, you're just afraid of being alone. Its natural but its not right to the guy you're seeing right now, staying with him if you're not sure the other guy will like you. How would you like it if a boyfriend you liked said he was gonna try to go for another girl but if it didnt work he would settle for you. pretty crappy huh?
Either go for the guy or not, but dont chicken out and wrong your current boyfriend becasue you're afraid of being alone. anything in life worth pursuing has a risk involved...remember that
sorry if its not the answer you wanted to hear
2006-07-31 08:28:14 · answer #1 · answered by sexydp 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everybody always says "follow your heart," but that's a load of poop. Your heart operates like a dogs nose. It follows something intently until it smells something else interresting. It can change directions more frequently than a computer-guided cruise missile.
If you don't put your brain back in charge and start making commitments, then your best case scenario will leave you and your boyfriend heartbroken. The worst case could include STDs, an unwanted pregnancy, or an abusive, codependent relationship.
You can't jump around from boyfriend to boyfriend because there's somebody new and interresting in town. There will always be somebody new and interresting. You have to be in charge of your emotions and make good decisions!
2006-07-31 09:08:44 · answer #2 · answered by Privratnik 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like, you're afraid to be alone, and that might be why you're so attatched to your current boyfriend, and you may not know it.
Find out what features you like about your current boyfriend, and what features you like about your potiental boyfriend. Dont assume because he has a great smile, he's a nice guy.
Talk to the guy that is older, and ask him what he thinks about you, if they are all nice things, with no hesitation, that means he's been thinking about it, for a while. He might be interested.
It's better to break up with your current boyfriend, anyways, because if you find potiental in other people, then chances are you're missing something. Some guys can be the perfect boyfrien but still miss the esentials in a relationship.
2006-07-31 08:49:21 · answer #3 · answered by anjui63 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my gosh i feel so sorry for you, that's a lot of pressure... and thinking. well, what i would do would be to stay with you bf for now, but look at the other guy and see if he's better than your bf. if he is than you say to your bf "i just think that we should see other people" or "maybe its time to take a break for a while" and you have to make sure that you guys stay friends because then if you end up not likeing the other guy then you can ask to get back together and he'll probably keep you in mind, if not then hey! there's plenty of fish in the sea!
2006-08-01 17:39:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax. Decide if you enjoy your boyfriend, or if you're just holding onto him till something better comes along. If the first is true, stay with him and enjoy your crushes from afar. There's nothing wrong with having a crush, but don't let it come between you and someone who makes you happy. (You can't know that the other guy would.) If you're just waiting for something better, leave your boyfriend-because it's cruel to stay with him-and enjoy the single life. It CAN be enjoyable, you know. You'll be free to date or not date. Being single is okay.
2006-07-31 08:30:56 · answer #5 · answered by Jacida 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you have a "great boyfriend now"??????? Enough said!
Do you have issues about being alone? Not good! If you can't be without a boyfriend and you would like to have someBODY instead of noBODY then there's an issue that's worth investigating.
My advise is don't cheat! If you can't resist the temptation then you shouldn't be in a relationship with anyone...ya know, you can always be single and just date people until your ready to commit to a relationship.
2006-07-31 08:35:45 · answer #6 · answered by reighngstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well, im kind of in that situation right now, i have a boyfriend and i like someone else. if you have a great boyfriend right now hold on to him as long as you can. the boy you like may become taken, and then you will be happy that you stayed with your boyfriend. another thing is if you do break up with your boyfriend what happens is the boy you like doesnt like you? if you see that he does like you than you will be really happy. when you are going out with the other guy and you break up you may doubt that you made the wrong decision. if this happens remind yourself that it was worth it while it lasted and dont get down on yourself...
i thought about all of the possibilities than realized i still loved my boyfriend and i am with him now.
think wisely than make your decision
Good Luck! :-)
2006-07-31 08:33:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the thing is if you have a great boyfriend now and you don't even know the guy that you have a crush on then say with your boyfriend. The grass isn't always greener on the other side. Cuz this guy you have a crush on may not be the guy he seems to be.
2006-07-31 08:30:31 · answer #8 · answered by isis_of_tears 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not being fair to your boyfriend or yourself. If you like another guy while you're in a relationship with someone else, dont cheat eachother out of the opportunity for something REAL. Break up with your boyfriend and pursue this other guy, because its not only going to make you happier, it will also be the right thing to do.
2006-07-31 08:30:10 · answer #9 · answered by Krissy-Girl : ) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, How old are you? If you have a bf and find yourself attracted to other guys and considering breaking up with your current bf anyway... You may as well be single. Seems to me that you dont want to be alone (which is understandable-most women dont). But dont hurt other guys in the process of "just dating". There is nothing wrong with being single. Find out who you are first...You are always going to be attracted to other guys.
2006-07-31 08:34:05 · answer #10 · answered by Pretti Poodle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋