what can i do? i've always been shy and quiet, and i always feel that everyone loves talkative americans.. they love them, they want to be friends with them, but i'm not like that and i feel hated, i also feel discriminated by jobs, and not just in how talkative i'm not, but also because even though i'm American, i'm frm mexican parents and i don't act or speak like others.. it also feel that i'm not a real american, even though i am.. but i don't do anything that other americans do..so i feel like i don't belong.. any advice?
2006-07-31 08:24:16 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I think the answers you are getting are great! Pay attention to these young ladies(I'm assuming young) Being quieter then all of our counter parts here in the USA more then likely makes you appear smarter. Don't sweat the fact that you don't waste words. That is an asset. Say what you mean and mean what you say. If you waste to many words no one will listen to everything you have to say. I tend to tune out the people that talk the most.
You are an American. Great! It's nice to meet you. That you don't speak and act like others is okay. None of us in America except for the Native Americans are from here. We all came from somewhere else. Me? Irish heritage. All of the wonderful cultures and heritage of EVERYONE is what makes America a wonderful country. Your heritage is one piece of twine just like mine that is bound together with everyone elses twine to make a strong rope. Things are better that way. Me, You, your parents, my parents, we are all pieces.
We all are a little different, so yes, you may feel a little different. Embrace the differences and how they blend in to make up the United States of America.
Tom
2006-07-31 08:37:12 · answer #1 · answered by Thomas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you have any contact with the outside world at all, you would know that some Americans are pretty upset with illegal immigrants right now. Am I saying you are an illegal alien? NO. But other people might have problems with people who are Mexican. Is it right? NO. And trust me--not everyone wants a blabbermouth! Not everyone in America likes people who talk and talk forever...and if you still feel like you don't belong, try to fit in--if it's what you REALLY WANT. Play a sport (everyone likes soccer!), go to a park and hang out, go to a restaurant, stuff like that. I'm very sorry that you're being discriminated against. Just remember that you aren't the only one, and most people on Yahoo! Answers are here for you!
2006-07-31 15:30:54 · answer #2 · answered by Annie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just gotta accept who you are. While you are from Mexican parents, you are also an American. Embrace the best from both cultures. A really good way of doing this is to read the newspaper and watch the news. Being caught up with the current events is a really good way to be interesting. See, the key is to be talkative and to be interesting. You don't want to be talkitive and annoying.
2006-07-31 16:05:50 · answer #3 · answered by bud11dennis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing wrong w/ being shy...many people are. i used to be!! i am asian-american, but i used to just feel ugly and stupid all the time, so i thought no one would want to talk to me or listen to me. i think it's more about ur own confidence, than other people. =T.. sad to say, but the more confident u are, the more attractive u are to other people. u don't have to change ur whole personality, but just work on yourself. do u think u are a good person? do u feel u are a hard worker, and good to others?? then it doesn't matter what other people do or say to you. don't feel bad because others are judgemental..just be the best person u can be. if u feel lonely and want more friends, then yes u may have to "try" to meet new people, by talking to them, getting to know them. it's not easy, but it's much harder when u are too shy. most people are shy cuz they are self conscious..when u work on urself, ur appearance, ur ability to talk w/ people, friends and strangers, u start getting more confident about what u learn and know, and u begin to just speak up more; i think once u do that and realize no one is judging u, no one thinks ur stupid, they WANT to hear what u have to say, then u will not be as shy. try harder to learn more about many things, so u can talk w/ anyone about anything. good luck~~
2006-07-31 15:33:23 · answer #4 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you feel worthless. You are not worthless. You need to find something that make you feel your are valuable, that makes you feel better about yourself. Sometimes giving of ourselves as a volunteer makes us feel that we are making a difference in someone's life. If you are not yet ready for that, keep it in mind as you get older and more secure with yourself and others.
Get involved with other people that share your interests. Give yourself time. Try to overcome your shyness bit by bit. Have interests and pursue them. Get to know more about your interests so that when you meet someone you can talk better knowing what you are talking about and it will be interesting to the other person.
You state: i don't act or speak like others
To me you seem to be an individual as we all are. But you don't follow the crowd just to talk empty talk to fill in the dead air, because you want your voice to matter. No one enjoys listening to someone full of idle chatter.
Also if you find that you are too serious for being isolated with no one to talk to, read up on jokes, read or watch something on TV that will entertain you. Find something that you can share in a conversation with someone else.
If none of this works you may need to find yourself a couselor in whom you can trust to let your inner feelings be known and express how you feel. Hopefully you will make friends with someone who will satisfy this need in you without the need of a counselor.
Most of all if you have not done so yet, find out who you really are.
Good luck and you will be in my prayers.
2006-07-31 15:29:40 · answer #5 · answered by up.tobat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself. Don't be shy. You have no reason too. People socialize because it's fun. Learn to like it. If you feel like people are judging you then screw them! Respect yourself. You belong just as well as anyone else does here. There aren't anymore TRUE americans probably. So just hang out w/ your wang out and enjoy the ride! lol
2006-07-31 15:37:24 · answer #6 · answered by Mariah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not worthless dear. We need people who listen more and talk less! I find people that only talk about themselves boring! Ask people questions, listen to them, you will be more appreciated than those who talk too much! My husband is of a Mexican Mother and it did not matter to me!
2006-07-31 15:31:08 · answer #7 · answered by shepherd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋