My best friend and my closest cousin both want to be the maid of honor and they are both like sisters...help!
2006-07-31 08:17:20 · 24 answers · asked by ♥ sweet-n-low ♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
easy your wedding your choice or leave it up to them to come up with the solution and inform you as soon as possible.it should be one less thing in your plate to worry about- for them to come add more stress on you now.good luck girl
2006-07-31 08:55:03 · answer #1 · answered by sexydiabla592 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wondering if one is married, and one is single if so problem solved. The single one is the maid of honor, and the married on is Matron of honor.
Maid of Honor Duties
Of all the maid of honor's duties the most important is to offer moral support to the bride. That and lend a sympathetic ear, a helping hand and a shoulder to lean on. The maid of honor has many responsibilities to ensure the wedding planning and the wedding day is worry-free for the bride. She is to relieve the bride of the more stressful burdens, so the bride may enjoy her wedding to its fullest.
Wedding Planning Duties:
* Help the bride shop for her wedding dress
* Visit reception sites with the bride as a "second pair of eyes"
* Help the bride choose the wedding flowers and reception decorations
* Shop for the bridesmaid dresses
* Ensure the bridesmaid dresses are ordered well before the wedding
* Address wedding invitations
* Help make wedding guest favors
* Purchase, address and send out bridal shower invitations
* Host a bridal shower
* Keep track of the gifts during the bridal shower (who gave what)
* Host a bachelorette party
* Attend the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner
* Help out during the rehearsal dinner
* Buy the couple a wedding gift
Wedding Day Duties:
* Decorate the reception site (and clean up at the end of the night)
* Help the bride get dressed
* Either pick up or receive (if delivered) the wedding flowers from the florist
* Distribute the bouquets, boutonnieres and corsages to the wedding party and the couple's parents and grandparents
* Ensures all the bridesmaids are ready (hair and makeup) and arrive at the ceremony on time
* Adjust the bride's veil and train before she walks down the aisle
* Hold the bride's bouquet during the wedding ceremony
* Hold the groom's ring until the exchange of rings
* Witnesses the signing of the marriage license
* Participate in the wedding photos
* Bustles the bride's wedding dress for the reception
* Help the bride in the washroom
* Give bride's gift to groom if bride wishes
* Stand in the receiving line
* Give a maid of honor speech and toast
* Dance the first dance with the best man
* And anything the bride wishes, within reason
You need all the help you can get. (lol)
2006-08-01 16:16:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anastasia S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this decision has to be made by you. but you could have two maid of honors. Is one married? You could have a maid of honor, and a matron of honor. If you still can't decide choose the one you have known the longest. Or you can do it in order from tallest to shortest and do it that way. There are lots of ways to choose. Don't let them choose for you. Tell them that they both mean the world to you but you only want one maid of honor and give the reason (only one best man) and then pick one. If the one gets mad over then she probably wouldn't have been a very good friend then. They should want the best for you and for your day to go well. Good luck and Congrats on your upcoming wedding.
2006-07-31 08:48:36 · answer #3 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend recently was in the same position with myself and her sister. The problem was easily solved. Her sister is PSYCHO and would have caused a lot of problems if she hadn't gotten her way. I am very understanding, and was more than pleased to just be a part of the wedding. So I took the high road and settled to just be a bridesmaid. I ended up acting as the maid of honor, just didn't sign for them!
So either choose the one that would be less understanding, or - modernize your wedding! Have two maid's of honor - let them share the duties, and just say that they both mean so much to you, you don't want to choose.
Keep in mind - this is your day! Do things the way you want to - everyone should want things to work out... If they don't - they are not good to have standing up with you in the first place!
Good luck and congratulations!
2006-07-31 08:23:16 · answer #4 · answered by Kerr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is either one of them married? If so make one your Maid of Honor and one Matron of honor that way they are both included and are more important then bridesmaids. If they are not have 2. I was the maid of honor for one of my friends and the groom had 2 best men. All three of us walked down the aisle together and it was fine. There really are no rules noe a days. Besides it's your wedding! Have fun wtih it and do what you want to! Enjoy yourself and Congratulations!
2006-07-31 08:44:29 · answer #5 · answered by sweetcaraline_27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can have TWO maid of honors. thats not a problem. or just pick one....go with whats in your heart. afterall, this is YOUR day and you only get this once and you will always remember it. i have 2 best friends but when one actually appointed herself maid of honor and didnt even ASK me, i knew it was the other i was going to choose. If they are both true friends, they will understand no matter what the situation! good luck :)
2006-07-31 10:58:26 · answer #6 · answered by tulips♥77 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
geesh, it is your wedding. They are thoughtless to tell you what to do. I would have the cousin be the maid of honor. Or they can both be, but then what will the other briads maids feel?
Maybe call them all bridesmaids of honor.
Best suggestion is for both of them ease up and let you have your day.
Like others here have said, matron of honor if one is married and maid of honor if one is single.
In weddings it is important that you don't please others.....it is the day for you and your bf. Don't let family and friends turn the wedding in to theirs
Best wishes
2006-07-31 10:44:44 · answer #7 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have both. I had my cousin as my Maid of Honor and my best friend was my Matron of Honor since she was married. No one says that you only have to choose one. It's your wedding do it the way you want to!
2006-07-31 09:36:39 · answer #8 · answered by weddingplanner06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is one married and the others not then have the married one be your matron of honor and your unmarried one be your maid or you could justbhave to maids of honor I seen it done and done good plus just think more people who can help you divide the tasks and you don't upset anyone but it is your day and you have a right to choose who you want to be closest to on your day.
2006-07-31 22:36:07 · answer #9 · answered by movin12006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im getting married too and I have 2 maid of honors......
2006-07-31 08:25:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They both can be -- the can share the honor of maid of honor, and make sure that you have them acknowledge that they will share it.
2006-07-31 09:27:42 · answer #11 · answered by Scarlett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋