I am 17. My parents just split up about a week ago. My mom was dropping me off at work (eck no, I can't drive yet) and she told me that she was going to go into AA and take counseling. She said in a couple months she thought it would be a good idea for me to take counseling too, to work out any issues I have from the abuse I've dealt with the past 6 years (verbal, not physical). I think I am fine. lol You know? But do you think I should try it anyway and see what comes up or what? It sounds like it would be interesting to hear what they had to say, but I'm not too keen on telling them anything personal about myself. Opinions? Thanks. =)
2006-07-31 08:02:08 · 8 answers · asked by flod_prfekshun 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I suppose it's fair to mention alcholism, drugs, and infidelity are involved. -_- Not me though! I despise the stuff. My mom was the alcoholic. My dad was the cheater. And they both smoke pot. lol Good times eh? lol
2006-07-31 08:45:21 · update #1
This is a good idea. I would tell you to give it at least 3 or 4 trys. One does not always realize the benefits right away.
It took 6 years to do damage, so you can look at it this way to guage the time it will take to work through the abuse.
You do not have to go with your mother. You may need to go separately as to allow yourself the freedom to speak freely without fear of repercussions. You need to be free to express your feelings.
Counselling is there to enable you the support system to work through your own emotions. You figure out what it is you want, what you want out of counselling, and counselling is not there to tell you how to live your life. Only you can do that for yourself.
So go. Speak your mind. Let out all the pain. Forgive yourself. Be angry, be happy, be sad, whatever you want.
You get out of counselling what you put into it.
Good Luck!
2006-07-31 08:38:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling can be good for a person . That person will need to open and willing to listen. It isn't always easy to tell other people our deepest feelings but when we are able to alot of the time it is such a relief. Whatever you decide(I think u should give it a shot-what do u have to lose) You should support and let your mother know you are proud of her for 1.Being strong enough to go on after getting out of the relationship 2. For going to AA and being willing to admit that she has a problem and finally 3. for loving herself and you enough to start a new life. Good luck. If u don't do the counseling this place is here for you to get help. There are alot of caring people on here. You might also consider al_anon(sp?)
2006-07-31 08:35:57 · answer #2 · answered by confused/hurt/angry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a shot. It certainly can't hurt anything and you don't have to go into any great detail, or deep personal things. I was abused as a child and thought it was all good. But later in life I'm finding those things that happened are coming back to haunt me. I feel like if I had some counseling then, I wouldn't have to be dealing with it now. So yeah, give it shot.
2006-07-31 08:07:50 · answer #3 · answered by mydragons_heart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are dealing with a situation like this, you just never know how bad it is untill years later and you have a different perspective in which to look back on. I would definitely suggest going, these situations you are in, divorce, abuse, and alcoholism are the main reasons people go into therapy in their forties to try to figure out how their life got so screwed up. Take the chance now.
2006-07-31 08:08:58 · answer #4 · answered by Olive Green Eyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Up to you. If you're not comfortable sharing your personal experiances, and don't feel that the verbal abuse is affecting you in any negative way, then don't take counseling. It'll just be something you don't want to do, plus it'll cost either you or one of your parents extra money.
If you're unsure about the whole thing, you could always try just one session.
2006-07-31 08:08:00 · answer #5 · answered by Shadar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, counseling is a good way to get perspective I suppose. You might also want to read up on relationships, since you may not realize how to recognize and/or what to expect. Here are some of my favorite titles (they are expensive and often used as textbooks in college, so ask a librarian):
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0060959622/ref=pd_ecc_rvi_cart_1/103-2441314-0841457?n=283155
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/055338371X/ref=pd_ecc_rvi_cart_4/103-2441314-0841457?n=283155
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0205187064/sr=8-3/qid=1154372865/ref=pd_bbs_3/103-2441314-0841457?ie=UTF8
There may be some adult content in these books (textbooks really), but talk to your parents about them and they will probably understand.
2006-07-31 08:08:44 · answer #6 · answered by BigPappa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the counseling in the University because it is much better
2006-07-31 08:06:34 · answer #7 · answered by SweetBrunette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure. It's a good idea and great of your mom to think of it. Everyone there is in the same boat, and sometimes you get some good suggestions from it.
2006-07-31 08:06:19 · answer #8 · answered by curiositycat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋