I met a guy through a dating service. We seemed to hit it off. We went to lunch, talked the entire time, and he didn't want it to end and asked if we could go somewhere and talk. We went to my place, talked some more, and then went to a bbq with some friends of mine. He seemed to have fun and got along well with my friends. He asked if I would sit close with him so he could put his arms around me. We hugged goodbye. He had to work the next day but he called me after he got home to ask if I could come over. He started to make the moves on me again, and we ended up having sex. He wanted me to stay over, so I did. I left in the morning when he went to work, and he said he'd call. That was 10 days ago and no call. I txtd him to ask how he was after 3 days, and he answered that he was tired. That was it. Did he just want sex even though he went through a dating service to find a relationship? Did he decide I wasn't relationship material? Why did he seem so interested until I slept with him?
2006-07-31 07:57:17 · 19 answers · asked by slclaurie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't give in your body that easy....the least interested guyz will fade away soon when they realize getting you into bed is a hard task...the one's who are intereted in a relationship will hang on and will never make a huge issue....
2006-07-31 08:06:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe sleeping with him too soon gave him some kind of insight of the person that he thought you were. Maybe he thought. "well she sleep with me on the 2nd date she probably sleeps with everyone." It just made you look to easy and in the end "easy" is okay for booty calls "easy" is not who he wants to take home to Mom. It does not matter if he came through a dating service or not. I would either give him one last call and if he doesn't return your call or show interst I would move on.
2006-07-31 15:05:36 · answer #2 · answered by sweetcaraline_27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, we'll never really know HIS side of the story (of COURSE he's going to say he's busy or not a jerk or whatever)..but that's why it's SO important for you, as a young woman, to MAKE and KEEP boundaries for what YOU want in a relationship. sex is naturally what people want from opposite sex....but WHO is going to stick around, be there for you regardless of the sex?? that is what u are looking for. the fact that u met him on a dating service is why you have to have even more restrictions... no one knows who he is, he is not accountable to anyone.. if u met a guy thru a friend or relative, if he is a jerk to u he is risking his relationship w/ them. but if it is a stranger, there are No strings attached and there's no way for u to get thru to him if he doesn't want u to.... so set ur boundaries, what do u want in a guy?? when he meets all ur criteria, even then i would wait (i choose to wait til i'm married to have sex, but that's just me); when u KNOW and TRUST him completely w/ ur heart, ur mind, and ur body, that's when i think u should "give it up". if u dont' want to get hurt. remember this: Guys use love to get sex; Girls use sex to get love. that's why a girl will give it up, cuz they think the guy will stay longer, but it's actually the opposite; the guy will think and say he loves a girl cuz he wants the sex; once he gets it, it's much harder for him to want to stay. u have to make a bond w/ that person and he has to reason to want you beyond the physical. have respect for urself and set ur boundaries; that way u can filter out all the bad guys and find urself a good one. be careful!!
2006-07-31 15:05:22 · answer #3 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately he might have just been looking to get into your pants, but you never know. Being impatient I would probably call him. You might call him once just to see if he answers and if he does see how he acts. I would go from there. If no answer...then sorry that happened to you, but make sure to take things extremely slow with the next one. Especially if its from the dating service.
2006-07-31 15:03:55 · answer #4 · answered by lexy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he did go through all that work just to get some.... I'm sorry.. If you still like him tell him.... He's old enogh to be man enough to ay what he wants.. But he seems like a loser... I'm sure you can find somebody better than him... You seem like a fun outgoing person and you deserve better, nevermind I change my answer to just move on... and if he calls he calls if not just get your life back on track.
2006-07-31 15:02:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey let me tell you....don't go through any dating service because all of the men on there want nothing but a booty call
2006-07-31 15:01:38 · answer #6 · answered by jennifer_spanky2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you gave him what he wanted and he was out. That is the cold hard truth lets face it. Don't call him you will look desperate, if he wanted something more he would have called already. Next time hold out a little longer.
2006-07-31 15:02:40 · answer #7 · answered by meggie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't call him again , if he never calls again then it wasn't mean to be , I t could be that he just want to see what kind a person you are and maybe he thinks you are easy . but don't worry about it ,everyone makes mistake.i just hope you learn from it the time.
2006-07-31 15:04:49 · answer #8 · answered by princess11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He definitely just wanted sex sweetheart. You shouldnt have put yourself in that type of situation so fast if you wanted something more. He seemed so interested because that is what us guys do baby!
2006-07-31 15:02:15 · answer #9 · answered by TooFly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he played you! Don't be so eager to jump in the bed! Don't call him just count it as a lose and learn from the situation.
You're not a doormat!!!!! People will only step on you if you allow them to.
BE ENCOURAGED! = )
2006-07-31 15:06:50 · answer #10 · answered by classy sass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋