There's this guy I am interested in and I straight out told him that to, just to find out that he had a girlfriend, but we talked it over and decided that we didn't want to give up on our friendship, but it is very hard for me not to hope for something more, especially when he does continue to make efforts to be with me or talk to me, any advice?
2006-07-31 07:52:56 · 31 answers · asked by Elisey Lou 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stay away! Im a dude and Im gonna let you know a little secret. Now that he knows your into him, he's got a major advantage. Tell him you definitely dont want to just be friends and dont talk to him for like a week and if he truly wants you he will leave his girl and come for you. He's being unfair with you right now putting you in that kind of position.
2006-07-31 07:59:06 · answer #1 · answered by TooFly 3 · 24⤊ 12⤋
Just stay friends for now and you will get to know him in a different way on how he is and his personality in a different way and if he decides to make a pass at you then you will know that he's a cheater since he already has a girlfriend and that would not be any good for you but there is nothing wrong with just being friends that hang out & talk, it can be helpful to you in many ways
2006-07-31 15:02:16 · answer #2 · answered by dugbug63 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOAH SWEETIE, Who says this guy and you aren't made for each other listen take this from an old hippie who knows lots about affairs of the heart.
Try this just be patient if he likes you as well as you him, it's just a matter of time and he WILL be yours so don't rush things and this just be friends crap, that never worked for me either. That's why at the age of 47 me and this 27 year old are straight hooked up, Now what do ya think of that, Go for it!
2006-07-31 15:01:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend is of the opposite sex, and we wouldn't want to ruin that by adding a romantic relationship to the mix. I love her, sure, and she loves me, and we do things that make folks think we are dating, but it's that we're only out doing what we want....as friends.
We have a lot of fun, and help each other through the not so fun parts of life. This is what friends do, right? There is always hope for more, and if that's what you want, then keep that in your wishes and prayers.
2006-07-31 15:00:10 · answer #4 · answered by The Mystic One 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've always been weary of situations like this. If you like him and he has a girlfriend, separate yourself until you're over him. (Seriously!) It could end up hurting you more than him, remember he has his girlfriend. Don't give him the ability to play with your emotions like that. That being said, it is ok to be friends with the opposite gender but know that you WILL start liking them SOMETIMES. Quite normal, so don't worry about it. If its a good guy, why not try to date. Your best friend could be your soulmate.
ANYTHINGS POSSIBLE!
2006-07-31 14:59:15 · answer #5 · answered by classy sass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well yall jst have to take a chance, maybe risk it. it may be the yall should be together but try to make it a deal tht yall will stay friends regardless of what happens in the relationship, if yall do get together and break up, it may take a while for things to go back to normal but friendship conquers everything. yet, things may get messed up and yall wont be very close anymore. jst weight out the pros and cons and then make ur decision. u may be giving up on a great oportunity bc of fear.
2006-07-31 14:56:23 · answer #6 · answered by lizzbuug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and this girl went out and she broke up with me but we remained very close friends, every time i see her or talk to her i cant help but think that we'll be together again but i never say that cause it could hurt our friendship and make it uncomfortable, she gives me all the same signs that your friend gives you but we both are just keeping it just friends for now
2006-07-31 14:58:32 · answer #7 · answered by 60's Punk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard enough to be friends with the opposite gender when there are no feelings involved. If you're seriously okay with the situation then just hang out with him like normal. No touchy feely play, no what-ifs, definitely no getting jealous of other girls. Try not to hang out one on one, that makes it hard.
2006-07-31 14:57:05 · answer #8 · answered by graybear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and move on. When with him however much it may hurt just remind yourself he is with someone else. If you want to be friends with him maybe try and just hang out with him and a few others, so its not just the 2 of you and you don't feel as tempted, hopefully. You should soon begin to see him as a friend hopefully. Hope it works out, somehow
2006-07-31 14:58:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant be JUST FRIENDS with the opposite gender, because as you have just proved someone is always wanting more. Good luck and hope you come to this realization sooner than later.
2006-07-31 14:55:20 · answer #10 · answered by Tunasandwich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok this same thing is happening to me right now so this mite not be the best advice cuz im goin thro it but i've been goin thro it for a lil while so..just be his friend and then just sit thro all of it even if he tlks bout her just listen to him thats wat good friends do and if they break up u want to still be his good friend cuz then u have a rly good chance b-cuz he knos u like him and he likes u a lil after bein good friends with him then yall can try it but if it doesnt work out u kno that it wasnt rite but u still wanna be his friend after it mite not be the same b-cuz of wat happened but just tlk to him on the fone and stuff the gradually start seein him and stuff then yall will be good friends again (not as close) but yall will be friends and if he trys to ignore u just stop tryin then pretty soon he'll come back and wanna be ur friend again so...
my advice sit it out, wait see wat happens
2006-07-31 15:17:08 · answer #11 · answered by Cait 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋