How does one deal with friends who feel closer to you than you do to them when they fantasize for the whole length of your friendship that they are going to be in your wedding and constantly tell you that? Or, on a lesser scale, what if you grew up planning big extravagent weddings with all your girlfriends where everyone was everyone's bridesmaid, but you don't want that anymore? Or what if you just want a small wedding with not a lot of attendants?
So, I guess the real question is, how do you deal with someone who expects to be in your wedding but is not?
2006-07-31 07:44:47 · 6 answers · asked by graybear 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I too have recently dealt with this same situation. Unfortunately, I probably won't talk to this person much at all now because of how she handled the situation. I feel like this, we are all grown and have changed, being invited to a close friends wedding would be an honor to me, regardless if I had a specific role. You have to go with what works for both you and your fiance, you can not please everyone, friends lost over these situations, can't really be your friend if they take "your wedding details" to heart.
2006-07-31 08:54:33 · answer #1 · answered by Lovinlife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HAHAHAH oh man, I have this same problem...
I have been in weddings for girls that are friends of mine, but not CLOSE friends that i would want in mine. I feel bad to a point, but its YOUR day and you have to be surrounded by the people that you are closest with, and especially not anyone who will steal the show or annoy you.
If they ask who your bridesmaids are, tell them and leave it at that. Don't feel that you have to explain yourself...its YOUR decision...don't let anyone pressure you or guilt you into it.
If you can't just ignore them completely, designate them to do something else, like pass out programs, read at the ceremony, or hand out favors...etc. Good luck! This is a cruddy situation... lol.
2006-07-31 07:49:39 · answer #2 · answered by sour_apple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is pretty common and it's a difficult situation. I think the best solution is to give these girls other roles in the wedding like guest book attendants, program attendants, gift attendants, personal attendants, let them help decorate, stuff like that. Then everyone's happy.
2006-07-31 08:34:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time they bring it up say that you've decided only to have family members as bridesmaids (this is policy for many families), but it's so kind of her to have taken an interest in your wedding planning.
2006-07-31 10:56:04 · answer #4 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Essentially this is your big day and not theirs. Plan it how you want it to be. Not everyone has to be pleased at your expense and why should you feel guilty. Times change and so do people.
2006-07-31 08:12:28 · answer #5 · answered by mergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hippies and wannabe hippies. If all people had completed their analyze on the hippie stream, it wasn't all peace and love. Hippies are incredibly frightening and that i hate seeing our society embracing them.
2016-10-08 13:03:25 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋