i mean you try to be nice and some bosses take kindness for weakness...But you don't want to make waves...or cause trouble???? But somehow you notice that your boss is treating you differently...should you look for another job??? (since you wouldn't answer)...tell me what you see on that???
2006-07-31 07:43:59 · 21 answers · asked by sweet 4 in Education & Reference ➔ Other - Education
You should be able to do that without repercussion. Some bosses are too sensitive and too nosy and too immature and end up getting mad. He shouldn't have asked you anything personal anyway.
2006-07-31 07:47:00 · answer #1 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Well, first I would express my concern in a diplomatic and professional way to your boss. If you feel like he/she is just blowing off your concern you could go to HR or to their boss. I agree though, you don't want to create too much waves so if you make your boss, their boss and HR aware of the problem the balls in their court now to change it. If it doesn't get better then maybe looking for a new job would be best.
It all depends on the situation though....if your boss is sexually harrassing you then HR has TOO take action and there's no reason for you to look for another job. If it's just that he/she favors other ppl besides you then you really don't have a leg to stand on because they dislike you.....unless if you can show that your work is failing because of this treatment.
Good Luck!
2006-07-31 14:52:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be asking several different questions here. Can you tell your boss you'd rather not answer a personal question? Of course you can.
But is your boss treating you differently? That's a whole different ball game. How is he treating you differently? Is he stepping over the boss-employee relationship line? Is he harsher towards you than towards other employees? Does he hold a grudge about something?
It sounds as though you haven't given us the full story here...
2006-07-31 14:49:32 · answer #3 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not have to answer any personal questions at work. You should not just quit your job.
You should talk to your boss FIRST about any problems, try to get all your questions answered right then.
If you are not satisfied, then talk to his boss. If he's the head boss, you must either accept the situation, or leave it.
You could press for civil damages anytime you feel you must, but please see an Attorney or get more information from a public servant for anything like that.
2006-07-31 14:51:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends. Is it information they need that is required for the job? Or were you just chatting and your boss asked a personal question? If it's something they need to know, you could probably get fired, but if you were just chatting, I don't see anything wrong with saying the question is too personal and you don't want to answer it.
2006-07-31 14:51:28 · answer #5 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me,like your boss is making "passes" at you. If so,then tell him you don't appreciate him putting you on the spot. If he continues,then keep a record of times,dates,and everything he has said or done to you. Keep the record for 2 weeks,then file a sexual harrasement charge against him,but don't let him know your going to do it,and don't tell your co-workers about the plan. You have the right to say "NO". If you value your skills,then you don't need his bullshit. Don't give him the satisfaction,of making you quit your job. Take the jackass to court,and get paid!
2006-07-31 14:53:15 · answer #6 · answered by Squeakers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly depends on the question. Your boss has no right to question your life outside the office.
However, if you show up to work sans pants, with leather chaps and a riding crop, you may have to choose between answering the inevitable questions and finding alternative employment.
2006-07-31 14:49:48 · answer #7 · answered by Joe Rockhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to not answer any question. There may be consequences to not answering that you don't like. Then again, maybe the boss will have more respect for you if you don't answer. Also, he could be testing you to see if you would be suitable to work in a sensitive postition where discretion is required.
2006-07-31 14:48:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your boss shouldn't be asking you "personal questions" in the first place. If you feel you boss treats you differently you should confront him/her. They will either appreciate the fact that you stood up for yourself. If they don't change their attitude towards you, then yes, look for another job where you will feel comfortable.
2006-07-31 14:47:49 · answer #9 · answered by Kya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's okay to say you'd rather not talk about something. It's a good way to nip things in the bud before they become a real problem later on down the road. See if you can work it out amicably before you go looking for a new job, but if not then yeah, you should probably start floating resumes.
2006-07-31 15:13:34 · answer #10 · answered by Beardog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not happy with your boss, just try to bear it...Many people have trouble with their bosses...you work for them, and they will try everything to be rude, because they are full of themselves...and yes you can tell your boss .."i'd rather not answer that", that's the proper, and most polite way of saying it....or you can say 'I wish I can answer that, but for me, it's very personal, please understand.'
2006-07-31 14:47:46 · answer #11 · answered by JOLIE69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋