ok i need some advice?

Question

my mother is bad about trying to make everything about her...today she read my 360 blog and swore i was talking all about her ..it was a blog about a baby possom....i am 24 years old and i don't understand why it is my mother thinks the only way she can communicate with me is by aruguing...it frustrates me and hurts my feelings when she snaps at me and tells me i am ungrateful...i have always given her the benifit of the doubt in everything..what should i do or say to her?

oh and i do live away from here i live in kansas she is in nc

Answer 1

Sound like your mother is going through a rough time , maybe the change of life. I'm sure she doesn't mean half of the things she says to you. If it were me I would sit down and talk with her and let her know how you feel about how she is treating you. Don't put her on the defense tho cause it will only anger her. Try turning something she says into a joke, like if she starts yelling, turn around and ask for some cotton. If she asks you why you need it, tell her that she was talking so loud it was hurting your ears. When she is arguing , try leaving the room or suggest to her you both go for a walk or any where she needs to get out of the house. Sometimes we need to use psychology on our parents.
Good luck

Answer 2

Your mother sounds as if she never matured, so how can you expect her to act like an adult???

You need to not put yourself into positions where she is allowed to be self-centered and argumentative. You say you're 24, so you should be able to kindly tell her to mind her own business, and that the entire world does NOT revolve around her.

If all else fails, the next time she starts snapping at you tell her you have better things to do with your time that to be reprimanded like a little child (which you're not), and tell her to give you a call when she can speak to you like a courteous, polite ADULT that you are.

Don't rise to the bait - she may just get her kicks by seeing if she can irritate you! Don't let her! Again, remove yourself from the situation. Say things like, "I've got to go, the cat is on fire," or whatever...anything to let her know you've got better things to do with your time!

Answer 3

Sounds like she is either insecure, or depressed. Depression can make you do things that are really awful. My mother had manic depression, and would do just the same things you're describing.
Unfortunately, I dont have a magic pill. She needs to make the decision to get help. Are you still living at home? You might think of moving out. Or, moving to another city/state.
Can you talk to your Dad at all about the problem

Answer 4

Your mother sounds like mine, Unfortunately your mother is your mother.

You need to let her know how you feel, absolutely.
But do not expect her to change. I have learned to grow skin like an alligator. Just let it roll off your back.

If you still live with her. MOVE OUT! Don't let her be involved with your personal life as much as she is.

If you don't live with her. GOOD! You need to have your life and then your life with your mother.

You need to separate your self from her. She needs to know that you are grateful, from afar.

Good Luck.

Answer 5

Dam sweetie It was the same story with my mom and you will never win a battle with your mom there will always be an argument no matter what you say. Its time to move out I did and its great.

Answer 6

You are 24? Move out!!!! There is a whole life of freedom waiting for you out there.

Answer 7

You should move away from her for a while.......then that will give her some room to fully think out things it seems to me that your mother may have a mental problem........She's paranoid for some reason......she needs to find out why........

Answer 8

move out or send her to a shrink !!!