my dad and mom live in different towns and i like living in with my mom i have more friends and its a bigger town i just like it there and i hate liveing with my dad,boring,boring,boring but i dont like leaving him alone and i dont know if or how i am gonna tell him i wanna move with my mom,should i live with him?
2006-07-31 07:21:47 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This is your life. You need to take control. Your dad is going to be fine. He is a grown up and can take care of himself. If he didn't want you to be happy, then you shouldn't be around him anyway. So I say just tell him and explain why you would rather be with your mom. Not that you don't love him, you just feel more comfortable there.
2006-07-31 07:25:47 · answer #1 · answered by hotchic 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should consider whether which town is better for you and choose to live there. You live with ur Mom but it doesn't mean that you're leaving ur Dad alone. Visit him every weekend, phone him whenever you miss him. Before you go, give him a present that can remind him of you with the meaning of you are always there, just beside him.
It would be better if you can tell us more why living with your Dad is boring (*3)???
2006-07-31 14:30:58 · answer #2 · answered by Raven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are, or how far away the two towns are. Do you live with your dad now? How is your communication with both parents? There are a lot of factors, but if you decide to live with your mom, be sure to let your dad know that it is not because you prefer mom, but that you prefer the friends and the town. Hopefully, he will understand that you are not rejecting him. He's a big boy now, I'm sure he can take care of himself.
God Bless you for wanting to take care of him.
2006-07-31 14:31:00 · answer #3 · answered by eleesche 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a child of divorce is difficult enough without tormenting yourself over which parent to live with. I went through the same thing. I was living with my Dad and my Mom wanted me to be with her. So I went and stayed with her so I wouldn't hurt her feelings. I really wanted to stay with my Dad. I wish I would have just told her that I didn't want to live with her; because when I was there with her, I ended up being sexually abused by her new "family"; and have had to deal with that ever since. I look back now, and wish that I would have followed my heart, and my gut feeling that it wasn't a good idea for me to go there. But, like they say; hind sight is 20/20.
Good luck in whatever you decide to do. But sweetie, no matter what; ALWAYS be true to yourself. You may live to regret it if you're not.
2006-07-31 14:37:20 · answer #4 · answered by pockets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple, theres nothing wrong with telling your dad the truth you know when my daughter speaks my whole world just freezes in that moment I love her so much that nothing she says could ever make me love her less so I think he will understand and secondly he knows there are more people in big cities, if you call him 2 or 3 times a week there should be no problem. He will miss you but if you call him he'll be just fine trust me I've been a dad since 1981
2006-07-31 14:32:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain to dad your growing up and you feeling more comfortable having mom around since your going through alot of changes.that you need mother around if it's ok with him that you move in with her and visit with him every other weekend.go Friday and leave Sunday.that way your father doesn't feel like you don't need him or want him around.this way your informing your dad it's something you need for yourself as a person and the real brat you make sound like.good luck brat
2006-07-31 14:29:05 · answer #6 · answered by sexydiabla592 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would tell him that you love him and want to spend time with him but would rather live with your mother for the reasons you mentioned. I'd make sure that he understands that this isn't a picking mom over dad decesion. Reasure him that you truley want to see him and spend timewith him.
God Bless,
Brother Duane
2006-07-31 14:27:44 · answer #7 · answered by Duane Allman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with your dad. He probably will understand. If he really and truly loves you he will understand how ou feel. You should still be able to vist your dad though.
2006-07-31 14:27:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your dad that you like spending time with him but you want to live with your mom because she is a female and you and her see eye to eye.
2006-07-31 14:24:57 · answer #9 · answered by sugar n' spice 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this is what you want talk to your dad he just wants what is best for you he will be ok aline what do you think he did before you were born tell him what you think
2006-07-31 14:26:09 · answer #10 · answered by ahrtracy13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋