Ok I have seen time and time again,that relationships where ppl go thru hell (fighting,all the time) are the ppl that really love each other,and that stay together,then the relationships that look great,we always see thats there's some1 screwing around,or w/e. Am i the only person that thinks this? Does fighting really mean,that there's love in the relationship? Curious PLS B Honest!!!
2006-07-31 07:13:04 · 12 answers · asked by dawnita0322 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My grandmother has always said that when you love with all you have, you fight with all you have.
2006-07-31 07:34:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is going to be miss understanding in any relationship from time to time, which in turn is going to cause hard feelings. Doesn't mean that they are not in love any more. I haven't seen a couple yet that don't get into an argument once in awhile, that just a part of it. For the ones that cheat on the other one, I don't see how any body can cheat on their mate and still love them. That is jealously and hurt kicks in and then there is going to be a fight. It is just all a part of life. Guess none of this really made any sense. I am just having a hard time explaining what I mean, I tried.
2006-07-31 07:44:55 · answer #2 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not in my case. Yes it's possible to love someone greatly, and still disagree with them to the point of fighting all the time. But just because some people are truly happy, and don't fight with each other all the time doesn't mean it's all a front. My first husband, and I fought all the time. He started cheating on me, and we split up. My second husband and I get along very well. Yes we have had disagreements, but we don't argue and fight about them. I know he's not cheating on me, and I'm not cheating on him. So that's as honest as can be. Every one is different. If you love someone and you fight a lot; ask yourself if the pain is worth it. If you have more pain than love it's not worth it.
2006-07-31 07:36:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i don't believe Fighting = love in the relationship; however, it doesn't mean there ISN'T love either. the way i see it, is how they two Deal w/ their differences; do they try to fix things? do they listen to each other, and why the difference occured in the first place? communication, i think, is what shows love in the relationship. in my current relationship, i really see the difference between it and my past relationships.... we don't really *fight*.. sometimes we may argue or talk intensely, but we haven't really gotten into a huge fight *because* i feel that he is willing and able to LISTEN to me. even if i am upset about something He did, and i am accusing him, he listens and understands that regardless of who's right, I am upset. therefore, he needs to hear what i have to say, and go from there. and i don't get mad at him for no reason, so usually when i explain thing step by step (ONLY way for him to really understand what's going on...boys are funny), then he actually realizes from my point of view what is going on. so he goes OHHH..and he apologizes..and we try to fix it. it's not perfect, but it works. and it's much better than the past guys who always got defensive and never tried to hear my side. fighting is one thing (people have different personalities, points of views), but the ability to work it out and MOVE FORWARD in a positive way.. i think THAT'S love. if there was no love, neither side would even bother trying to make it work. and it's not about one person giving in all the time necessarily... it's *understanding* where the other person is coming from, and trying to move forward from there.
2006-07-31 07:20:43 · answer #4 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-08 13:02:23 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is going to fight no matter what. Even the relationships that look great on the outside. I think there is a balance. If you love someone, you will make every effort to solve the problem and avoid future problems. You want to choose your fights about the most important things. People in love don't fight often but they do fight.
2006-07-31 07:17:59 · answer #6 · answered by hotchic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each & every relationship is unique! Even identical twins with relationships with other identical twins won't have identical relationships. Your observations are valueless without recognition that fighting isn't a key to weld or divide the relationship. Honestly, it's fairly lame to presume maturity. Sounds too emotionally unsettled. People stay or leave relationships with plenty of wrong reasons, but they stay or they leave 'w/e' the reason. Plenty love to fight. Plenty hate to love. Too much syrup, not enough pancakes here!
2006-07-31 07:31:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some fight because it is a form of attention from their significant others. To them, any form of attention is good, even the bad.
Not all relationships are the same, It is quite possible to have a healthy relationship where nothing goes wrong and noones sleeping with noone else.
Fighting usually means there is either a fear of losing someone or it is a selfish way to get attention no matter who it hurts.
2006-07-31 07:20:09 · answer #8 · answered by bmxcollections 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're wrong. My fiancee and I don't fight, we disagree but know how to discuss it or to accept the differences in each other. When there is fighting in the relationship, to me it means that one or both parties are unwilling or unable to meet somewhere in the middle or be accepting of the other person. It means that one or both are trying to change the other person in the relationship.
2006-07-31 07:18:13 · answer #9 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the best for all marriages. If arguing in the way they communicate, then that's why thry're still together. Have to talk thing out, doesn't matter how. Me, I prefer nicely and quiet. My wife loves to communicate with me. I always have a lending ear.:)
2006-07-31 07:29:28 · answer #10 · answered by This, That & such 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't mean that there isn't love! All good relationships go through their struggles. If no one ever argues, they're able to keep it all in and stay healthy then in an unseemingly impossible way!
2006-07-31 07:17:40 · answer #11 · answered by viclyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋