well i have this cos who has been satying with me and my fam for the past 3 yrs. she had come here to do her graduation. now is is working and is still stayin with us. i really hate her coz last dec she caused alot of problem in my family as a result my parents turned against my sis and me. i still stayed quiet. two days ago when she came back home i asked her to make up her mind about leaving coz i see my mum and dad working hard at home while she sleeps. doesnt help out in anything. as a daughter i couldnt see it happening. and she went sobbing to her father and now for the second time turned my parents against me. she has broken up my family. did i do the right hthing by asking her to leave?
2006-07-31 06:51:06 · 9 answers · asked by mel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes.
As much as I personally am very family orientated, there comes a time when helping out secondary family can be detrimental to your immediate family.
However, it seems as if your own parents are not happy with the tactics. All you can do is continue to work on the cousin, to get her out on her own, or with her own family. And try and make your own parents understand why you are against your cousin. They may not agree, but hopefully, either side (you or your parents) will come to some kind of understanding of your own. Either they will understand you, or you will understand why they continue to support her.
2006-07-31 06:57:23 · answer #1 · answered by Joyce W 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you and your sister should have a talk with her. Maybe tell her that everyone needs to pull their weight around the house & help out. If she cannot do so than she must leave. Don't worry about your parents if they're mad that your uncle is getting involved. Cause she's probably givin some sob story and makin it look like she's a victim.
2006-07-31 14:00:12 · answer #2 · answered by ead824 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I think I would leave the big questions, or demands, like that to my parents. But you should talk to your parents about how you feel about her staying. If they agree with you and value your opinion then they'll have a talk with her and ask her to think about moving on or whatever.
Good luck!
2006-07-31 13:55:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Is that you and your baby in the picture? Looks like you are taking up a lot of space and money yourself. Maybe you should move out and stop burdening your parents.
2006-07-31 13:56:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have kick her a@@ and if your parents dont see nothing wrong with her living off of them then hey it's on them but as soon as they complain about her turn a deaf ear. oh and you sure had the right to ask her to leave
2006-07-31 13:55:11 · answer #5 · answered by sexyswells42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you did it in your parents best interest, it's just a shame they don't see it that way. she sounds like a spoilt brat and if your parents want to put up with that, it's their problem, you've done nothing wrong. ( and your baby is sooo cute)
2006-07-31 13:59:23 · answer #6 · answered by jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her to pay rent and part of utility. make sure it's the going rate around your area. this always work.
2006-07-31 13:55:54 · answer #7 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most people have troubles with roomie's.one week to two weeks is about all i can handle. this person is causing you problems??????they would have been out on there butts the moment they caused me grief!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-31 14:14:54 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you did a Right thing , she is lazy and a trouble maker get rid of her
2006-07-31 14:11:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋