I am 42, my boyfriend is 52. I have been divorced twice, him once.
Both of my marriages failed due to adultery on my husband's part.
It's funny, but both times I was told "You have to meet her!" "You guys would make great friends!" or "She's just a friend", "You have nothing to worry about.
Well, both times I tried, and both times I was betrayed. Now I am what you call "gun-shy".
I have been with Kevin for 5 years, We have been very happy and he has never ever given me a reason to distrust him.
He is a musican/singer as a hobby, he did do it for a living at one point, but not anymore. I tried to sing with him, buy God did not bless me with a singing voice, so he has been doing it on his own.
Until nowl
He met a female singer, same age as him, single, with a beautiful singing voice. I haven't met her yet, but I am afraid to.
and now I am hearing it all over again, "you have nothing to worry about..etc.. and I can't bring myself to accept this, but I can't help it.
Help!
2006-07-31 06:36:13 · 6 answers · asked by Lisa M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can understand why you are gun shy, but check this one out and start a friendship, i would say if you bring yourself into this equation the less chance of cheating to occur.
2006-07-31 06:43:05 · answer #1 · answered by redneckgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ma you have just had a bad stroke of luck...Those other guys were jerks and for some reason you just did not see through it. Have extreme confidence in yourself and don't worry about the other females because nothing is sexier to us guys than a confident woman!!! Now if he's been with you for 5 years apparently you're doing something to keep him there so keep it up!!!
2006-07-31 13:50:25 · answer #2 · answered by PLAYA 4REAL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's natural that you're worried. You also need to explain to him that you feel you have cause to worry. Keep an eye on him, but also, trust him to do the right thing. Waiting to be hurt is never a good thing, it closes you off from him, even if you don't mean to. It'll shut him out, and he'll feel that and think you're slipping away from him. Show him you're not slipping, just worried about being hurt all over again, but also that you trust him to do the right thing.
2006-07-31 13:48:38 · answer #3 · answered by callmegoddess618 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant say that i blame you by any means i dont think i could bring myself to believe it either..but as its said you have to" leave your past behind and start fresh with the presant partner"..wich i have a hard time doing myself concidering i have been in a lot of bad relationships. but it puts a lot of stress on a relationship not having trust either..I guess what i would do is go along with him to as many shows as you can see how they are together and make your own judgment..you maybe scared to meet her but i would do it reguardless it maybe innocent and you have to look at it as being innocent no matter how hard it is to do "innocent" until proven "guilty".
2006-07-31 13:54:00 · answer #4 · answered by tess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter whether you meet her or not, he is going to cheat on you. You can either threaten the woman or your husband. If he cheated once, chances are he will do it again. I don't know why you keep setting yourself up to be hurt. Find someone that will love you and not cheat on you. There are more fish in the sea.
2006-07-31 13:47:16 · answer #5 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi i sympathize with you. I am about your age and have been through alot in my18 yr. marriage. (not cheating,that I know of) Why are you not around when they are together? Maybe you can make a point of being there when they are together. Guys love to be praised!! Make him feel like a "god". I hope it all works out!!!
2006-07-31 13:48:14 · answer #6 · answered by hillbilly wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋