So I met theis guy about 2 months ago and we have been dating since then. the sex/chemistry is AMAZING, i just cant get enough of him and he cant get enough of me. we can talk about anything, i feel very comfortable around him. we are even talking about things we will do together next month. anyhow, he is a total sweetheart, and i have never had a guy be so nice to me. he says things like "i think we have a good thing going" "you feel like you fit with me" "its nice to know we are both looking for some companionship" and things like that. it makes me somewhat uncomfortable because he is so sweet and romantic, i dont know waht his motives are.
I have had the eerie thought of wanting to just marry him, and I have never had that feeling before. is it real? should I trust my gut?
the reason why i am so uncertain is that he recently got out of jail. he was in there for about 2 years, and so I am the only girl he has been with in like 3years.
Does he lke me cuz I am the 1st girl?
2006-07-31 06:33:31 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes I am the first girl. it feels right to me.
he was in for dui
2006-07-31 06:38:56 · update #1
It sounds to me like he really likes you a lot and his motives are that he wants to stay with you. However since he just got out of jail I think you should take it slow...He may seem sweet but the real way to know is by how he acts to other people is how he may treat you one day.
update-If it was just a DUI he's probably fine...no violent crimes anyway. Good Luck!!
2006-07-31 06:40:07 · answer #1 · answered by moonbaby279 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him freak you out with all of his affections, and don't worry about if it's just because you're the first girl. Trust me, he's probably wondering why you seem to trust him so much, considering his recent past... If it feels like it's becoming too much for you, sit him down and let him know that he needs to take it down a notch or two. He'll understand.
This guy just got out of jail, and you can bet he doesn't want to go back anytime soon, so you can put these fears to rest. It's a man's dream to be with a woman who openly accepts him like you have done, so it's no wonder why he's so affectionate with you. Also, you should take into consideration that three years is a long time, and people will forget the little things like how much is too much in a relationship in that kind of time span.
Again, don't hide these feelings or questions you have from him, let him know how you feel up front, and he'll respect you more for it. Guaranteed.
2006-07-31 06:37:11 · answer #2 · answered by Axel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You make a valid point and I would advise you to tread water lightly. Not saying that he isn't true because he had a little while to reflect on his life. However, you may be his sunshine now, but will it last is the better question. Also, what is he doing with himself since he has been out? You can't possible marry a deadbeat, who is going to leach off of you! So take all things into consideration and keep things in perspective.
2006-07-31 06:40:11 · answer #3 · answered by M D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While thats a tough call, it sounds like he loves you because you guys have such a great time together. Trust your feelings, but don't completely lose your head.
I've been in almost your shoes, so for the record, my guy and I are still together and blissful a year and two months later.
Don't worry about rushing into marriage until you are ready. Just because you are thinking about it doesn't mean it has to happen.
2006-07-31 06:38:05 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only he can answer majority of your questions. But sometimes, you just have to take a guys word for it, especially if he proves over and over just how much he cares. Personally, I think people over analyze their relationships way too much, and sounds like you are also one of them. Kick back, relax and enjoy the love. It's better than having the crap kicked out of you by a man who doesn't love you.
2006-07-31 06:38:16 · answer #5 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well depending on what he was in jail for, you should be really careful. a lot of guys are just sweet talkers and they tell you what they know you want to hear so they can get what they want. just dont rush into anything.
2006-07-31 06:36:49 · answer #6 · answered by ♥love2havefun♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know that you were his first girl.Take it slow and ask questions about things you want to know... Like how do you feel about this & what are your goals?
2006-07-31 06:37:52 · answer #7 · answered by lambgroni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy it or let him date another person and see if he feels the same afterwards.
2006-07-31 06:37:55 · answer #8 · answered by Lucy Lu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends... if he is in jail for stocking then RUN
2006-07-31 06:35:58 · answer #9 · answered by Tequila Gypsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋