Pls Help!!!! I've been dumped for the umpteenth time......?

Question

hey! whats going wrong? I'm Mr. Nice guy, I'm good looking but hairy (Brad Pitt has got nothing on me), I've been in the gym 24-7 this yr, I'm loving and caring and have a good job that pays the bills but I've been dumped 10 times in 3 months for being Egocentric but I'm sure no one out there believes that.....

Answer 1

There loss then init!

Answer 2

LoL.. sometimes, if u have something happen Over and Over again.. u have to eventually read the signs: there must be SOMETHING u are doing that is turning ur sig other's off. =T... sorry! but it's true..ther'es nothing wrong with that. just try and fix what is obviously a cycle w/ you... i mean if u said one or two girls out of 10 said u were too cocky, ok. but 10 GIRLS in only 3 mo?????!! yipes!! that's like a veeerrry high % rate... that should give u an inkling that hey, something's wrong here. it's actually a blessing in disguise.. u have EVERYTHING else going for you, plus u know u can Get a girl pretty easy. now, what u have to do is working on having them STAY. and since they are Telling u what it is (ie, EGOCENTRIC, ie thinking only about yourself, being too cocky, overly confident, ie ANNOYING), at least u have a step ahead everyone else who doesn't know what the heck is wrong w/ them!!! do something... ask ur friends/family (even ex gf's!) for examples of why they would call u cocky.. and think hard about why people would say those things. not that what others think is the Most important.. if u really don't see anything wrong w/ how u act, fine... but if u care about making ur mate happy and pleasing the girl ur with, it's worth it to delve deeper, do some detective work, and practice being *humble* and mature, not so self confident that it is odious to others.

Answer 3

You say you've been in the gym 24/7 this year. Could that be why you have such a big ego? You probably figured out by now that girls like confident guys, not cocky ones. You can be the most loving guy in the world, but a cocky attitude will ruin the whole thing. you could also just be dating the wrong girls. Cool off the dating for a while, and take the time to become friends with interesting girls first. By not jumping into the relationship immediately, you'll probably be saved from getting dumped as often as you have,

Answer 4

Lower your expectations and you won't be disappointed. Why don't you try foregoing the gym and do some community service. Work at your local library or theater. Theaters are chick magnets, I must say.

Doing things for others is a great way of getting rid of that egocentric look. But most of all, if you do that, don't talk about it. Don't talk about yourself. Let her do the talking, just listen.

If you stop and let them come to you, don't chase those women, you'll actually find yourself happier.

I've had 3 girlfriends in my life. I've been married to my 3rd girlfriend for the last two years and I love it. You know what I was doing when I met her? Volunteer work. I wasn't looking for anyone, and I just asked a lot of questions.

Now I'm happy.

PS. I never went to the gym... ever.

Answer 5

There is nothing worse than the feeling of being dumped. You may try not being at the gym 24-7. If there is one thing I have learned form relationships, its that the other person likes to be with you. If they didnt want you areound thenthey wouldnt go out with you. :-)
Also, relationships take two people to make it work. So if they think you are being egocentrical then you may want to take a step back and see what you may want to improve on. It is always easy to see what other epople need to do and focus on that, but the best way to improve a relationship is to work on improving yourself.
All anyone wants is to know that they are cared about, so offer that to your next partner and you should be ok. Good luck!!

Answer 6

I don"t know the whole problem. I would start out , cut back on days at gym, if you would spend that time with your date 24-7 maybe things would work out, comment about brad Pitt will do nothing for you, be your self cut back on gym, maybe the girls just want a real guy, theirs no one thing wrong with working out, use some of that time on you girl friend or you dates

Answer 7

Three strikes:

1.) Girls do not like "nice" no matter what they tell you.
2.) "Hairy" is never a good thing. Shave it or hit the day spa.
3.) Too much time in the gym makes you a "meat head" which also makes you egocentric.

There you go.

Answer 8

Sorry, but have to believe the evidence...you are getting dumped just less than once a week for goodness sake!

I assume you are avoiding steriods? If so get a life outside the gym would be a good start. Do some voluntary work for example. Be a good cook. A good Uncle/ Godfather etc.

In other words,,,suggest you get happy with yourself and STOP trying so hard!

Answer 9

Well are you egocentric? If so then you will remain in the dumped for the umpteenth time mode for ages unless you take a look at how you can improve your chances with the fairer sex.

Answer 10

Your first 5 statements focus on your good qualities—sounds egocentric to me. If you want to improve your relationships look in the mirror. No! No! Not that mirror! I mean the other mirror—self-reflection. Get counseling; self-reflection is hard to do in the beginning without an objective professional helper.

Answer 11

You've looking for love in the wrong place(s). Try not being Mr. Nice guy, some women find that a turn on.

Remember things can only get better, good luck!