find their penis and play with it. Is it also natural for a little girl (almost 4yrs) to do the same. I catch my daughter touching down there and I asked her if she had an owey and she says no and runs off to play. Just curious, I am almost embarrased to write this. Thanks in advance.
2006-07-31 06:18:39 · 10 answers · asked by Bug's Mom 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
It's perfectly normal
The experts offer the following tips:
Relax
Remember that it's normal. Dr. Gross estimates that up to one-half of all boys and one-third of all girls touch themselves regularly as toddlers, and that all children have stimulated their genitals by their first birthday.
Distractdon't overreact
Experts agree that the best reaction is no reaction, but if you feel that you must intervene, try distracting your toddler with a favorite toy or other object that requires the use of her hands.
Introduce privacy
This is a great time to introduce the concept of public versus private, says Dr. Stavinoha. Explain to your child that some things are private and better done in a bedroom than in a play group.
Recognize the cause
It is very common for children to self-stimulate when they are tired, or when their genitals are freely accessible such as bath and diaper times. Simply ignoring the behavior at these times is probably the easiest solution; recognize that this is probably nothing more than a comfort measure or simple experimentation.
2006-07-31 06:23:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
totally natural. Just let her no that is her very special private part. And that you understand it "tickles" when she touches it. Tell her its ok if she wants to do it but tell her its a private thing like going potty with the door closed (if she big enough to understand that) Or wearing panties under our dresses. Tell her no one else is allowed to touch it ever except mommy/daddy or doctor only to check if shes ok "down there" and clean. Most little ones actually go this faze earlier but its a natural thing that may be short lived or drawn out. Make sure you have clear communication with her in these areas because in time she will need to talk to you about her private. Urinary tract infections can be caused for playing a bit to much irritations. And these things can happen weather she dose that or not but you need to hear from her about such things. What a great opportunity you have to open the doors of communication w/you're little one to all the things of importance as a lady in the future! Remember its not shameful. And make sure she understands that. But it is private!
2006-07-31 13:27:39 · answer #2 · answered by Little bitty 1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Completely normal! Just don't make a huge deal out of it or it may turn into one of those things she starts doing for attention (she'll learn that you'll react to it). You also don't want to tell her that that's bad and dirty - you'll give her a complex. Just politely tell her that it's not a nice thing to do and divert her attention. She'll eventually get bored with it and forget about it.
Little bitty 1 is dead on with her advice! I agree 150%!
2006-07-31 13:43:28 · answer #3 · answered by Ken'sBabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont have a little girl but i would say its normal for her to feel whats down there....i worked at several daycares and the one little girl would actually go and hide to touch herself... i have read that this happens in both boys and girls....if it seems to be getting raw down there or hurts when she pees i would have a talk with her..other than that i think its ok..dont be embarrassed to ask this its something that would worry me a bit too..
2006-07-31 13:26:00 · answer #4 · answered by dani may 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is almost 2 and is noticing that area now, usually at bathtime when her diaper is off. I feel uncomfortable with it, but I know it is just natural and curiousity.
2006-07-31 13:35:48 · answer #5 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is obsesed with her vagina. I just tell her that if she wants to play with it, she has to do it in her own room. I have taught her all the proper names for it, and taught her that she is not allowed to talk about it or play with it in public. I don;t want her growing up to feel ashamed of it, as so many of us did. Its a part of her body and she can do with it what she wishes. Believe me though, when she starts spouting off about her vagina and clitoris at christmas, you need to bring out the smelling salts, she gave everyone a damn heart attack...LOL. this was before the don;t talk about it in public talk.
2006-07-31 13:25:29 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have found that happy spot. It's normal. It's just embarassing when they do it in public. Don't make them think that it is dirty or they are not suppose to do that. It will scar them when they are older. Just tell them to do it in private and that some things are not suppose to be done in public.
2006-07-31 13:27:11 · answer #7 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its normal...shes just finding herself...shes gonna start gettin more & more curious tho :)
2006-07-31 13:23:37 · answer #8 · answered by heavynz1976 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you no wat i have a secret to tell ill tell you since it has somthing to do with the question! i am a twelve year old girl and i swear to god about this i touch down there alot!!!!!!!!
2006-07-31 19:23:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is normal
2006-07-31 13:30:14 · answer #10 · answered by pammy_6201 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋