I've been seeing this guy for the past two months and he's so nice and thoughtful. I like him so much. But he's not the same race as I am. My famliy has strong convictions about interracial dating. I've already met his famliy and they don't have a problem with us dating. I have told my family that I'm seeing someone but they have not met him yet. He wants to met them but he understands about how my family is. How can I make them like him without them being upset that I went aganist want they believe.
2006-07-31 06:03:39 · 29 answers · asked by bluebliss2184 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't make them like him. They have to meet him and get to know him in order to either like him or not. Personally, I don't feel there is anything wrong with interracial relationships, as long as the two people truly love eachother, what is the difference? The question is, are you willing to keep the man you love in spite of your families non-approval because of his race difference? It becomes a question of are you willing to undergo the disapproval of your family in order to stay with the man you love. This kind of thing is very difficult, because people have varying degrees of family devotion. Some people will never do anything for fear of their families disapproval. Others rebel deliberately to seek a response from their family. You have to decide how much this man is worth to you when you weigh it against the disapproval of your family. You never know...if you come right out and tell them and let them meet him, they may fall in love with him and you won't have a problem at all. I'm sorry this is such a non-answer, but I don't think anyone can truly answer this for you. It is something that has to come from your heart. Just my opinion.
2006-07-31 06:12:51 · answer #1 · answered by typicalguy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be with the one that makes you happy, no matter what thier race is. My family is like that, too. ( I'm white.) You need to tell your family about him before he comes to meet them. And you need to tell your boyfriend that they feel this way. Obviously, they are going to freak out if you don't say anything about him, and just show up with some white dude! It really depends on your age, too. To some degree, if you are under 18, and still living under their roof, they have a right to say who you date. It sucks, but it's called respect. If you are older, maybe you can convince him that he is a good guy, and you guys are happy and all that. I've never been faced with this issue, so I don't know really what to say, but I do know that if you can't be with the one you love, no one else will ever make you happy, no matter what.
2006-07-31 06:12:08 · answer #2 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't do anything to make them like him... you are gonna have to let him kno what he can or can't do around them. you need to tell them that u really like this boy and give them a heads up that hes not ur race. this way it wont be such a big shock... they would already be expecting it..there is nothing wrong with interracial dating... mabe like 100 years ago there was but we live in different times now. tell ur parents to stop being so old fashioned. try to talk to them about it ery serisly like the woman u are!
2006-07-31 06:09:40 · answer #3 · answered by chahi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Asia is a huge position, includes many cultures, so that is difficult to generalize. in better westernized wallet of Asia, like in Hong Kong or Taiwan, or Singapore, mixed marriages are somewhat basic, and bigger everyday with suggestions from society. also, there appears to be like a pecking order, and whites are frequently rank on the proper (i.e. that is better ideal as a lot as now/marry a white individual with suggestions from an non-white, then different racial crew). i recognize that there are a determination of mixed Asian/different marriages in US, so i ought to imagine the answer on your very last question is "sure".
2016-11-27 01:21:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no no no no...you should NEVER date outside your race. it's wrong wrong wrong wrong wrong. If you do, you will burn in hell, the earth will split in two and cats will start sleeping with dogs! never date outside of your race.
Are you serious?.... date whomever you want. The world is on the brink of WWIII and anyone who is concerned with something as pointless as dating someone of a different race isn't looking at the big picture. Who really cares?
2006-07-31 06:08:14 · answer #5 · answered by bodinibold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. But what you can do, is stand by your convictions and not let anyone tell you that you have less of a quality relationship because of the color of his skin. You can't cure the world of intolerance and bigotry, but you don't have to be a part of it either.
2006-07-31 06:08:25 · answer #6 · answered by outlandsishlady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its ok, it's your life not your families. I would just let them know they are important in your life and you value their opinion/believes, but this is ok with what you believe and you can't always see eye to eye on every tough issue. You can't make them like it, but you can hope for a good understand.
2006-07-31 06:10:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant make your family like him!you have your veiws your family have theirs! you cannot live your life by the way that others think! im 54 and white!im dating a black nigerian woman aged 40!i dont care what people think! as long as you are both happy!!! do what you want to do!not what others expect of you!!i wishh you well.
2006-07-31 06:19:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them that you love him, and no matter what that you will still be with him, even though he is not the same race as you. tell them to get out of the 1950s and get into the millennium. tell them that what matters to you is the love that you both have for each other, and not the skin color.
2006-07-31 06:09:21 · answer #9 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's OK to date outside your race the only thing that i have with this you need to know the background of the culture that you getting involved with they may have some beliefs that your not in agreement with time will tell
2006-07-31 06:08:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋