DO you think we EVER get over the BAD things that happen to us or do WE just learn to DEAL with them?

Answer 1

I think as time passes we cope and don't focus on it as much. I was raped 7 years ago. At first I couldn't deal with anything in my life. But today, I accept it and am happy. However, on the anniversary, I still have a hard time getting out of bed. Somethings trigger memories, but for the most part I deal with it.

Answer 2

It's kind of like the whole "Whatever dosen't kill you makes you stronger" concept. Bad things happen to everyone to some more do and to some less do but they do happen and when they do it becomes a learning process. Like the borg, you adapt to survive. Some people don't get over the bad things. Some things like molestation or divorce can affect you for the rest of your life like when you throw a rock into a placid lake and the ripples go rough and more visible at first then they go all the way to the edges of the lake but by the time they get there they are not as big and formidable as when they started, but nonethess they are there. Sometimes it is overwhelming, the number of bad things I mean. I think it is your hope and faith that things will get better that keeps you going. Some people have a half full cup and some of em have a half empty cup and some of em have a half empty cup and the punch a hole in the bottom sabotaging themselves.

Answer 3

Bad things happen. It's all part of life. But what happens makes us stronger..stops us doing and making the same mistakes again.

I think that no, we dont EVER get over the bad things, we just mature and learn how to deal with them. We cannot change what's in the past, so we just deal with it, in our own ways.

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Answer 4

I have stuff I know I'll never be over. And I don't always choose to deal with it, either. The thing is... some stuff is normal, and some isn't. And when someone inflicts a certain amount of abnormal damage, it leaves a scar. In my case, I have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, caused by sexual abuse ,rape, and abusive boyfriends. It manifests itself in different ways, but it's all tied to things that happened to me at the hands of someone else. it's a horrible thing to want to be over something and not see a way to ever make that happen. But, most importantly, if you aren't over it, acknowledge that. Don't let others manipulate you into saying you are fine if you are not.

Answer 5

Well, it depends on what you mean by "getting over them." If getting over something means it doesn't bother you at all and you forget about it, I would say no...unless the "bad" thing you're talking about is something that is really quite minor in the big picture.

I believe that when we experience tragedies, that experience, like any other, helps to make us who we are. It can make us stronger. We've been through "the worst" and come out the other side...hopefully learning healthy coping mechanisms, a new outlook on life, etc.

Answer 6

we never truly get over the bad things i think we learn to deal with them because its not like we can change what happened and we will always remember the bad things its all about how we deal with it

Answer 7

I think after we deal with them, they usually make us a stronger person. We LEARN from the bad things that happen to us!

Answer 8

I've had my share of bad things occur in my life. I don't think we ever really get over them, that we just learn to deal with them. I hate the phrase forgive and forget. Not that easy, its much easier to forget and not forgive.

Answer 9

Just deal with them sweetie. Takes a while but it happens. Lost my best friend at 15 and she died in my arms. Never got over it, just had to deal with it.

Answer 10

That depends on how bad they were for us. The "for us" is important, because one person might think something was very important, while another might think it was trivial and easy to get over.