do you still find it hard after 7 years of your parents splitting up?

Answer 1

I went through that. It was upsetting then, but I later discovered that their relationship problems were too much for them. They tried hanging in there together because they had kids. Now I believe that's a BAD idea, and I don't feel sad about it. My rational side took over and I am able to see my parents from a couple's viewpoint. It really has nothing to do with you. Some times people just are just happier with someone different or alone. These things happen a lot. You will feel better, but it just takes time. Talk about it with each of your parents and talk to a close friend about how you feel. Lots of people go through it. In time you will see it clearly from other viewpoints and eventually, you'll feel less sadness about it. People who keep it bottled up will always have a hard time getting over it.

Answer 2

Actually, divorce is more traumatic to kids than the death of a parent. With death a parent is lost—which does, of course, have lasting impact; but with divorce the parents are still there but the puzzle is the change of the relationships with these existing parents from the early perceptions of childhood. This is compounded if the parents get polarized and each tries to get the children on their side. Kids have attachments to both parents inside them which cannot be ignored. They are like each of their parents which is usually not appreciated by one parent one way and the other paren the other way. It takes many many years to get perspective on this.

Answer 3

Yeah mine divorced twenty years ago and I still feel the effects of it, think it has with relationships. I would have loved to talk about it with my parents but sadly my dad died earlier ths year.

Answer 4

my husband's parents split 25 years ago, both remarried and he still finds it hard to deal with

Answer 5

it's sad