Switching daycares?

Question

I first put my son in daycare at about 9 months in a center. I recently at a year old put him in a home daycare. Things have been great but i'm still thinking of putting him back in a center. I know in the future we want a second child so do I switch him now to get used to it or keep him where he is until we actually conceive the next child.

I'm really sick of people putting down daycare. I don't just have kids to stick them with someone else. Most moms who stay home just sit there and watch tv with their kids. Daycares TEACH and your kid can interact with other kids all day and socially develop. The people answering to stay at home, do you even have kids.

Gosh, people are really harsh with their answers. I was just asking a question and have gotten some real nasty people. Remember "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it at all".

Answer 1

Keep him where he is. If he's happy there and you are satisfied with it, then don't switch. Too much change/disruption isn't the best thing for him. He will have enough adjustments to make when you do actually have another child, so keep things stable for him now.

Answer 2

Well I have worked at a big daycare center and now I run my own home daycare and I have to tell you that the kids get way way more attention in a home daycare meaning lots of love, lots of one-on-one teaching, and lots of stability (daycare centers usually switch workers around alot). And I wouldn't see why your home daycare provider couldn't take a sibling. In most cases home daycares are cheaper too. I know I am. Local centers in my area (a mostly low-income neighborhood) get $75-$95 week depending on the age of the child. I charge $75 no matter the age. I would just look into what you feel best with. If it is that you aren't satisfied with your provider try to find a place that is clean, has no more than 8 kids to one provider, that is licensed through the state (if required because they make monthly visits usually), that has a basic schedule that keeps the kids in routine (but has flexibility), and that the kids seem to really really like the provider (do the kids cling to her, do they smile at her alot, etc).

Good luck with your decision. I do feel sorry for you having to put your children in daycare but all people need to understand that most women have no choice. That is why I am glad that I do what I do because I can assure the kid's parents that they are safe, loved, and having lots of fun. Good luck to you. I hope you can make your mind up. If you need more help let me know.

justme-And I agree with you. Make sure if you select a home daycare there is structure. It is important for any childcare place to have a good routine.

Answer 3

Keep him in the home daycare, it has got to better for him than the for profit only baby centers. How is he ever going to learn to bond with anyone if people keep disappearing from his life. Maybe that is your idea.. keep bouncing him around like a rubber ball so he doesn't learn to like anyone better than you. By the way I was a stay at home mom (kids are grown) and we never sat around watching the boob tube. Sticking a kid in a baby center at 9 months is sick. However not as sick as the church down the way that takes babies in at 2 weeks. There is no way your wife has bonded with this child. Maybe the reason he doesn't sleep well at night has something to do with the daycare problem.

Answer 4

More to CleverGal than to answer the question (sorry). Some of us have to put our children in daycare. I have three and even if I didn't work they would still be in daycare for at least a few hours a day. The interaction with children their age is stimulating and even a tad bit necessary in their development if you ask me. My kids love their daycare and I still spend tons of time with them. They even go to work with me occasionally. NOTHING WRONG WITH DAYCARE SO STOP TRYING TO MAKE US FEEL GUILTY!!! My children have been done no disservice. They are happy healthy children who are well-behaved in public, around other children, and at home. Now to answer the question - stability is key for children, but the switch may not be so bad if you make it at an early age, especially if you know for sure that is where they will end up in the end. Get him in and get him settled. When the baby comes he will have enough to adjust to, and he will be better off it he isn't trying to adjust to his new daycare also. Hope this helps! Once again, I apologize for the rant.

Answer 5

Why have children if you are going to stick them in daycare and let other strangers raise them? Honestly, if you are only having children because you think you should, you are doing the children a real disservice. They need their parents for more than an hour in the evening and a few hours on the weekend. Do you really want other people teaching your children manners and morals? That's the parents job. Make some sacrifices and scale down your lifestyle. The child will be better off for it and isn't that the most important issue here?

Answer 6

I think daycare is a wonderful idea. I miss my girls when I take them there everyday, and I feel bad for dropping them off, but I am in school, and I think they understand that I am working to make a better future for them someday. As far as an at home daycare, I tried that, too. I didn't like it, either. Usually, if you can find a good daycare, that is your best bet. My children have learned things in daycare that I didn't think they were even ready to learn yet. Don't worry about what other people say about what you do with your children, you know what's best.

Answer 7

I am proud to be a daycare mother! Forget them. I work and by doing so I show my daughter that you can have it all. I want her to know that you need to work and take care of yourself to be independent. If I did not work we could not do things like, go to Disneyland and take long weekends at your beach house. For those that say that you shouldn't put your kids in daycare have the kids that you have to deal with in school that do not know how to conduct themselves in a manor that is appropriate for a productive learning environment.
My daughter has great social skills and loves the structure of an organized daycare center. I had her in a home day care and there was little to no structure. Good Luck

Answer 8

If you're going to switch daycares again, i would do it now. Get the transition done. Because when you do conceive this next child and start talking about and preparing for your next child, it may be difficult on your only child as of now to grasp. You wont want to throw too many curve balls at him after you tell him that another baby will be coming to your home. Also when do you switch him back and conceive this next child, talk to your child care provider about this and maybe at school the teacher can read books with him about sibblings and such.

Best of luck. And i used to work for daycare and my daughter is in one now. Theres nothing wrong with daycare, providing you pick the right one for you and your family. :)

Answer 9

Children receive more one on one time in a home daycare. The stability of having 1 caregiver verses having numerous caregivers in a daycare center. Bottom line is to follow your own instincts. If your child is happy and you feel that this environment is a happy, safe and structured one. Then allow him to continue attending.

Answer 10

This is day take care of you. Many day care employees make simply above minimal salary, and are filled in a room with too many children for eight hour days. Many have minimum coaching in little one care. Trust me, your little one is NOT benefitting from going to day care all day. If you don't want care, I could pull him out and wait till fall to begin for a preschool elegance if in any respect. In the imply time, have you ever attempted a library tale time? or systems for preschoolers via your town parks? zoos? museums? MOPS mother's organization? These could get either one of you out in a risk-free a laugh manner. That complete 'ship them to college for socialization' is a fantasy. Especially at age two, he's some distance too younger to be in a software effectively. If some thing, a side time/side week software is greater than ample. PLEASE DO THE OTHER KIDS A FAVOR, Inform the director of what you spotted of the trainer's behaviors or even file this middle. In the USA? well threat noting might be performed. State legislation are so lax it's rough to close down a little one care middle. and get your little one out of there NOW!