My wonderful friend who is black happens to be dating a white kindhearted guy and often when they are out together people will make and say nasty comments to them just for being together black as well as white people I just want to know what is their problem? theses are both two beautiful human beings after all
2006-07-31 05:33:00 · 18 answers · asked by jaci 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl, my family is in the same situation. Im black, tongan, Indian, and mexican. My family is so mixed that none of us look related. My skin color is brown but when i date out of my race i get nasty remarks. For example I dated this punjabi guy and people were saying things like "why r u dating him, or ewww he could be a terrorist" things like that. I say im with my man and your not so dont worry about me dating him, thats my perogative. Keep things to yourself because you have nothing to do with this relationship. They dont pay for none of my bills, dont feed me, buy none of my cloths, so why should you care what they say but i do understand the hurt and pain thats being caused and you just cant get over it. Ummm to all u mixed haters out there just know that skin color means nothing its all about the personality and if that person treats you right with the kindness and respect you deserve. Skin color is just skin color a color that is genetically given to us by our ospring, if your white that dosent mean that, that person will treat you better then a black person same gose with other races. I wish people will be more open minded and not so closed narrow minded.
2006-07-31 05:44:50 · answer #1 · answered by sam w 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are lots of reasons but I think that primarily people are worried that the white race and culture are being eroded through inter racial breeding - perhaps in years to come there will not be any more white people or white culture if it continues at the current rate.
Also, it may well be very tough on the children who come from such relationships, as they are stuck in a cultural limbo and don't feel part of either race.
Finally, I think that people's cultures are often not compatible and the results can be heartbreaking for those involved once they realise that they both have extremely different expectations from the relationship.
I am aware that I will probably get bombarded for this reply, but you did ask for the reasons that people feel like this, rather than simple, nodding vindication, so that's why. If you don't like the answer, don't ask the question.
2006-07-31 05:44:18 · answer #2 · answered by sallybowles 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because many people out there are ignorant and fear what they do not understand. As they cannot see themselves coping in a multiracial relationship and haven't experience they richness of it.
They and their trampyselves look down their noses at others not realising how much of their IQ they are showing. To justify their insecurity and lack of knowledge, they use phrases like "people should stick to their own kind" and "they taking away all the cute black/white (depending on the race of the person) guys/girls".
They they wonder why the person is with someone of a diffrent race!!! In my humble opinion such people need a hard slap and after that an IQ test then some serious lesson on tolerance.
You could read:
http://www.bbc.co.uk/worldservice/people/highlights/010831_mixedrace.shtml
http://members.aol.com/ebonylvory/mixedrelationships.html
They may the ignorant among us appreciate.
I also agree with KuriousKelly answer and didn't see the point in writing what she said too.
2006-07-31 05:50:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's funny the first answer you got was from a white guy who is married to an Asian woman. I'm black married to a white woman. people look at the two relationships very differently even the Asians. You will rarely if ever see a Japanese woman with a black man or viseversa as you will rarely if ever see a Indian woman with a black man, but you will often see both these women with white men because the upper crust of both these societies seem to put white male ideologies above their own.
2006-07-31 05:47:43 · answer #4 · answered by ranger12 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on what you were taught, and how you were brought up. It's not wrong. My dad was white, and my mom is Chinese. On the black/white thing. I don't think its wrong. Where I come from (Zimbabwe), you just don't do things like that, cause people make life very difficult for you, and at the end of the day, neither community will accept you. I found it really wierd to see so many black/white couples here. It's not wrong, and I think if they can overcome the cultural differences, all the best of luck to them.
2006-07-31 21:52:30 · answer #5 · answered by ZimHon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a good question. I think if their parents or grandparents were exposed to same race dating it still goes for each generation. I'm black and my wonderful boyfriend is white. My father is black and my mom is white...so I don't know. But that's what some people still believe...its sad though...my boyfriend and I have gotten looks when we've been at Wal-Mart or out someplace else and we just ignore them. We love the way how we are....
2006-07-31 05:39:18 · answer #6 · answered by dancer1883 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. I was in a bi-racial relationship for almost 4 years. My parents did not approve of it at all, neither did most of my friends. And when we went out in public, we heard our fair share of comments that were inappropriate. As of now, we are no longer together because of the daily pressure and constant yelling from my parents to end things. I know that when I have kids someday, I will be much more open-minded about their relationships with others. The rest of the world will hopefully evolve in their ways of thinking as well.
2006-07-31 05:43:36 · answer #7 · answered by tenieweny00 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL!! i assume you may say i'm racist and hypocritical. besides the actuality that i'm mixed race merely like my mothers and dads. My father is African American and a touch chinese language on his father's section at an identical time as his mom is customarily Vietnamese, chinese language, Manchu, Mongolian, and Kazakh (my paternal grandmother's ancestors got here from an prolonged line of Northern chinese language and considered necessary Asian Turkic rulers). My mom is customarily African American with some Vietnamese and little bits of French, Russian and local American. although, my mothers and dads are raised decrease than Vietnamese way of life and that they have self assurance as long as I truly have a solid female then this is solid adequate. My attitude has truly replaced in my teenager years. I grew to grow to be so evil that I even disowned my a million/2 cousin (my mom's a million/2 sister's daughter). I disowned her through fact her baby is customarily Black & Puerto Rican. i'm formally caught with a loser who's my cousin in-regulation. i will't have self assurance my mom's kin regular this. I truly have friends from all racial communities yet my blood is substantial. study and remark.
2016-10-01 07:28:19 · answer #8 · answered by Erika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its in our history, and this chain will be continuously evolve in our everyday doings. The thing that im sure of is, when they have different races and they love each other or communicate with each other then the outside forces (other people who are against with it) are irrelevant and there's no questions to be asked. Let them check their mirrors and let them find who they are in the world. Good luck and more power.
2006-07-31 06:00:21 · answer #9 · answered by ACE IN THE HOLE 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can say from first hand.i married a for a lady from a another country. and we had a sample of what you are going on about.the only thing i can say is .get on with live .never mind what people say or what you hear.if you are together.or i should say if they are together just shut it out and enjoy each other.my wife is coloured and i understand where you are coming from.like you i cannot understand people and there attitude to mixed relationships
2006-07-31 06:09:25 · answer #10 · answered by JOHN W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋