I am a member of a gay men's social club and every year we have a Halloween dress-up party. We all dance and have fun and one thing usually leads to another and we go off still in masks to have some private, annonymous fun. I wont go into too much detail but I later found out that my mystery man that night was my own son. I don't know if I can deal with my own flesh and blood being gay. Now I'm trying to decide how to punish him for going to a place like that when he is only 17. AND having sex with a stranger is NOT how he was raised.
2006-07-31 05:26:38 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I already read all those books.
2006-07-31 05:34:46 · update #1
okay - you can't punish him for doing the same things you do - that makes you a hypocrite. If you don't want him doing these kind of things, then you shouldn't be doing it yourself. Also, what did I miss.....it is July, not October.
2006-07-31 06:26:21 · answer #1 · answered by pammy_6201 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to have a heart to heart talk with your son and try to get to know him better rather then punish him. Sounds like you don't know him all that well. And stop being hypocritical, like father, like son... How can you expect him to be any different when you are off doing it? What he needs most now is your support. Judging him for the choices he's making or trying to make will only push him farther from you. He's only months from being 18, legally able to run off on his own and disappearing from your life.
My second thought is that maybe he is experementing sexually. This is something you will have to sit down and talk about. Remind him of the dangers of not using condoms, of what will happen if he gets a girl pregnant, of what will happen if he ends up with any STD and HIV/AIDs, and that not everyone in life is honest.
2006-07-31 12:46:42 · answer #2 · answered by myshira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'Kay, you know what? I'm not against anyone being gay, but that is just nasty. You should probably get back to work, and the fact that you seem to have the time to think up crap like this denotes that you have WAY too much spare time so read a book or something ok? I recommend Marley and Me or Dispatches from the Edge or The Glass Castle. AND GROW UP!
2006-07-31 12:33:07 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you being gay yourself you really cant punish your son for the same thing. you should be MORE open minded to this. and you should be punish for having sex with strangers in this day and age dont you know about HIV AIDS and other STDs. if your son was using protection then hes being smart and using his BIG head for something other then a hat rack. talk to him and dont push him away for somthing that you KNOW that he dont have control over. alway love him. answer any questions that he might have. be there for him.
2006-07-31 12:36:02 · answer #4 · answered by dontgiveaphukkingratsazz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK I can kinda see your point but that is messed up but I would sit him down and explain he is to young to be at these party's and that he needs to be having protected sex. I would also make sure that you both seek therapy for your oops because that is not a good thing especially in your sons mind.
2006-07-31 13:41:40 · answer #5 · answered by twinsmakesfive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU DO IT-HOW CAN YOU PUNISH HIM-AND YOUR GAY!YOU ARE A HYPOCRYTE AND YOUR SON NEEDS SUPPORT.maybe if you sat with him and talked to him instead of wanting to punish him for something you do too-that he probably already knows about, you should help him fall into a good, monogomous gay relationship-Child rearing isn't do as a I say not as I do
2006-07-31 12:49:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop looking for attention asshole you don't want your son to be gay but you went to the movies the other day and wanted him to touch your penis ( as in your other question) your questions are ficticious and are meant to get a reaction from people
2006-07-31 13:24:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, I'd believe you if you didnt ask a question regarding your son and his girlfriend from high school.
2006-07-31 12:40:54 · answer #8 · answered by a.kranz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's nasty.
2006-07-31 12:56:37 · answer #9 · answered by guineasomelove 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋