This girl I know is hott and ive been wanting to get with her but her friend has a huge crush on me and i dont like her like that. So wat the heck do i do.
2006-07-31 05:25:47 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
XXXXXXXXXXX move on and cut your lost, there is an unspoken rule that friends don't date guys their friends like. Sorry. And I applaude her for respecting that. XXXXXXXXXXX
2006-07-31 05:29:58 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell the girl you like that you don't like her friend that way. And if the girl that you like still won't date you, try the other girl who likes you. Because for all you know, things could go better with her than the girl you want to date. All I can do is wish you the best of luck.
2006-07-31 05:32:07 · answer #2 · answered by slipknot4lifecaca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a feeling she told you directly that she won't date you because her friend already does. I'm not saying her friend doesn't like you, or that she's lying necessarily, but this is actually a cover for the fact that she really doesn't want to go out with you at all. (If she really had feelings for you, she wouldn't let her friends hold her back.) She doesn't want to be mean to you, so she's making an excuse so neither you nor she has to feel bad. So, I recommend that learn to read between the lines from now on, and respect the fact that she didn't try to embarass you.
Here is a list of lines that women are notorious for saying when they don't want to hurt your feelings followed by what they really mean:
She says: It's not you, it's me.
What it means: It's you.
She says: I need to have time to find myself.
What it means: I want to break up.
She says: I need some space (to think).
What it means: You're smothering me with all your attention.
She says: Maybe we should start seeing other people.
What it means: Start looking for a new girlfriend because I've found someone else already.
She says: I like you too, but I want to be friends first.
What it means: I have no intention of dating you, but I'll be your friend to make you feel better about it.
She says: Let's take a break from the relationship, and try to be friends again.
What it means: I'm not as interested in you anymore as I used to be, so I'm breaking up with you.
Don't constantly try to analyze everything a girl says to you from now on, but just learn to recognize what you're doing wrong that would bring about a girl saying such things to you. A good place to start is to learn that girls aren't interested in "nice" guys. Come on, think about it. When have you ever seen a girl date a boy who was always super nice and caring around her (for very long at least)? Never, but I know you see girls date boys who aren't so nice, and actually tend to be jerks.
I'm not telling you to learn how to be mean, not in the least, but you should realize that these other boys who do get the good looking girls are doing something right. So if you're not friends with any of them, make friends with one. Ask him to show you the ropes. (Most guys are pretty cool about this, and do like to help.) Watch him in action, and see what kind of reactions he gets from the girls when he goes about his business. Who knew that these guys had anything valuable for us to learn from...
2006-07-31 05:29:49 · answer #3 · answered by Axel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking us? Why are you being all secretive from your friends? You just come out with it straight, "Hey, I like you, but I don't feel that way about your friend." Most girls won't date a guy if they know their friend likes him too, because that's the girl code. Just hang out with them like they're friends, and see what happens. Maybe this girl who likes you, maybe you have more in common with her than you think. If you're judging by who is "hotter" looking, than you may' be missing out on something even hotter, like, which one is "hotter" in bed. ;) You never knowwwww....
2006-07-31 05:29:43 · answer #4 · answered by Tessa ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait it out dude i mean wait till her freind stops liking you,this girl sounds loyal which is a good quality in a girlfreind but are u sure shes not just saying she cant date u cuz of her freind or mabeye she may not be intrested find out it might be interesting
2006-07-31 05:30:59 · answer #5 · answered by angelina_mcardle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave them both alone.
The girl's loyalty to her friend is admirable.
It shows that she has high moral standards for herself.
The friend will eventually hook up with someone else, and you can try again then.
Good luck
2006-07-31 05:29:07 · answer #6 · answered by niffer's mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ugh. That's a preteen mess if I ever heard one. Girls are goofy like that, not wanting to piss one another off. My advice, if she was REALLY into you, she would date you despite her friend that doesn't stand a chance. It's an excuse, girls have lots of them :(
2006-07-31 05:27:59 · answer #7 · answered by darkm00nch1ld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her friend a clue about you are not actually like her because you do have an ideal of other girl
2006-07-31 05:31:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that she is the one that you like and you have the right to choose whoever that you like. Tell her that you will talk to her girlfriend about the feelings.
2006-07-31 05:38:36 · answer #9 · answered by Dani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you do all you can to make her friend not like you, shoot even hate you.. but be carefull if you go overboard then it may backfire and they both end up hating youo..
2006-07-31 05:32:16 · answer #10 · answered by cool_guypitre 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋