why can't you forget the first person you have loved in your life, why is it so hard to do that?

Question

i fell in love with a very beautful girl, and she felt the same way about me, but after 9 months it ended and we broke up.after a while i tried dating other girls and it worked, but when we got phisical i imagined that my girlfriend is beside me not that girl, is this natural or am i simply loosing my mind?pls answer.

Answer 1

It's hard for anyone tp forget their first love. I was dating my first love for over 4 years, and when we broke up, it was hard for me, too, to forget. But that's the key right there, you have to learn to let go. Now I am in a new realtionship, and we have been going together for over 4 1/2 years, and still going strong. Time DOES heal all wounds, and eventually yours will too. Perhaps you might want to wait a while before getting physically involved with someone new, if you still can't stopping thinking about your ex. Get to know them first, and eventually you'll forget about her. I hope it helps.

Answer 2

Hm. You haven't healed yet, you imagine her not because she's the only woman you are ever going to be able to love, you just are still scarred inside, and she's the one your mind drifts too, it's also showing you that you are probably loving on a more physical level with these other girls and not emotional, give yourself time.

Answer 3

It's normal to compare your current partners to your first love, as long as it's not on a constant basis.Maybe you weren't ready to end the relationship with your first love and haven't truly accepted the fact that it's over. Until you readily accept the fact then you Will be able to move on and have a healthy relationship with another woman.

Answer 4

Welcome to the world of first love.haha its normal.I am in the same shoes with you. Some times i imagine its my girl friend am with instead of the new girl.The only way i over come this is if i clear all my thoughts in my head and just concentrate on the girl am with, no thinking or comparing bodies.

Answer 5

i think its hard to forget the first person b-cuz they tend to be the one who kinda sets the standard for the ones after that. no matter how hard you try you'll compare your current girlfriend to your first. totally natural. but sometimes it can be frustrating.

Answer 6

i know how you feel but all you can do is push through im going through the same thing.

Answer 7

cos 1st love is that idiot person whom v never 4get