It seems that there are A LOT of single people both men and women. Now I understand that many of them choose to be single and that's fine. But for those who really want to meet someone and have been single for years, is the problem with the "lack of men/women" or rather with themselves or their expectations?
2006-07-31 05:17:41 · 20 answers · asked by estebandiatao 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
they are unrealistic.
2006-07-31 05:19:34 · answer #1 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that there is both a lack of men/women and unrealistic expectations on behalf of us single people. I am picky and I have had a hard time being single for the past several years. My pickiness might be deemed unrealistic by some but to me it's a necessity for my continued peace of mind. I am older now and I know what I want. I want a man who is honest, hard-working, spiritual, humorous, genuine, affable, stable, independent, loving, considerate and respectful. I would also like a man who is in pretty good physical shape. I want a man who is law abiding with no criminal history. Also, it would be icing on the cake if he was sexy as hell too. I don't ask for more than I am willing to give back. This is unrealistic to many because they don't want the same things and don't think that they should have to bring these things to the table. I am in my mid thirties and the time for game playing has passed for me. I will not waste a man's time and I won't allow him to waste mine. I don't have six months to give to this one and a year or two to give to that one. Before I know it, I'll be 40. My children are 11 and 14 and I don't want to bring a half-a** man in as their example for what a man is supposed to be. (They are girls. I am divorced. Their fathers are dead and incarcerated.) In my past, I settled and now I have to live with the consequences of my decisions from back then. I am just trying to make better decisions now. I am single by choice but not by desire. I hope that I can meet my match one day but until then, I'll have to live with being considered as picky and unrealistic. When the right man comes along, he'll see that I am prize and worth my weight in gold (and I'm thick!). I'll treat him like a king as long as he treats me like a queen. But so far, I've not had much luck. Shortage of men...no. Shortage of good men...YES.
2006-07-31 05:31:31 · answer #2 · answered by intentionalmasterpiece 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have different wants and needs and are very specific on what they want. Some will sacrifice somethings or others, but why should be settle for less than the best.
I know that I will only date BLACK MEN. That is my preference. So that narrows down my dating pool.
It is all based on the individual. Some are unrealistic or very rare!
2006-07-31 05:21:04 · answer #3 · answered by Cierra Janece 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would agree because I think I'm way to picky now and would like to marry a girl but she has to be hot but im way to picky in what i want. I think pickiness goes away with age for most people though so it may be a good thing.
2006-07-31 05:21:44 · answer #4 · answered by unknown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not believe single persons' expectations are too high. It is just who they are looking for, they have not found. You do not expect an individual to settle for any and every one that passes by? Relationships are based on trials and eliminations until the most suitable candidate is found.
2006-07-31 05:24:09 · answer #5 · answered by joebaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think they are unrealistic. most singles that have not found the right person are looking for the perfect person. they do not exist!
no human is perfect. i see many of these singles looking for the perfect trophy date.( the best looking ), never a good idea. i think these people get what they have coming to them. a lot of nothing!
2006-07-31 05:23:21 · answer #6 · answered by I CAN SEE RIGHT THROUGH YOU! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you usually find someone when you least expect it and want it....I believe that there is someone out there for everyone, just sometimes harder to find that some others get. It will come..sometimes I think that the problem is just that people dont want to take a chance
2006-07-31 05:41:43 · answer #7 · answered by Hannah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yes!!! it's the lack of men/women... there is just nobody out there U can see Urself having a relationship w/.
2006-07-31 05:22:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should anyone settle for someone that doesn't quite fit the bill, especially for a lifetime? That's not fair to either party.
It's better to be alone than it is to be with the wrong person.
2006-07-31 05:22:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know many ppl used to tell me that before i got attached..
but then again NO ONE had been persuing me or at least made it known that he had some sort of interest in me..how can i pick and chose when theres nothing to pick from????
yea mayb im just too fat and ugly and un-hotchick enough for guys........
just some views from the other side of the fence
2006-07-31 05:21:51 · answer #10 · answered by acnemycin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both
2006-07-31 05:19:28 · answer #11 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋