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im going out wit someone i love but i cant seem to commit or be faithful i think i really have a problem with being faithful its jst when im in the relationship i suddenly get scared and claustrophic help!!

2006-07-31 05:03:52 · 58 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

58 answers

If you love them, you won't cheat. If you cheat, you don't love them as much as you think you do...

2006-07-31 05:06:19 · answer #1 · answered by Hallber 5 · 0 0

I have a friend that has been engaged at least 8 times, she will say she loves this guys, but when they set a date, she bolts....
She is now seeing a counsler for this, because she doesn't want to be this way. Maybe you should look into this..You might be cheating so he will find out and break up with you. Being scared of something so power as love is not wrong. I would be more worried about you if you took it so lightly, you want a committment and love but you don't want them to smother you to death either. When they become to clinging or needy is that when the problems happen? Cheating is bad no matter what the reasons are! Do you want your partner to cheat on you? It hurts, and if you truely love someone you wouldn't want them hurt. So, maybe you have found your true love yet....and there are some people that can handle a swinger's life style. But if you are in a relationship, the other person involved should know you are also involved with someone else. Let it be there choice whether they want you even though you can't or won't be only with them....That's only right, go see a counsler, and hopefully with their help you can get some real answers that can help. I wish you good luck, and I am glad you do care enough to be seeking advice that shows you know it's wrong whether you want to admit it or not. You have heart! God bless us all....

2006-07-31 05:18:34 · answer #2 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0 0

Ohhhh boy, the guilt will eat you alive......

If you honestly LOVE HIM, then you wouldn't feel clausterphobic, panicked, and feel the need to cheat. You just love the idea of being in a secure relationship....but enjoy promiscuity and attention, as well as the single life. But really...doesnt what you're doing kill you, you've got a good man who loves you and all you can do is be unfaithful to him? STOP NOW and smarten the f*** up, NEVER do it again and another piece of advice is DONT TELL ANYONE not even HIM, Don't put yourself in situations where you're tempted to commit adultery, and just let yourself LOVE and BE LOVED.

Or on the other hand, you can admit everything to him, and I'm 99% sure he will leave you, and you can learn the hard way that sleeping with other people doesn't fill the void that you have in your heart. When this boy finds out (if he ever does) what you're doing, he will leave you...and you will be sorry....perhaps this is the lesson you will learn so that in your next relationships you won't be so foolish.

2006-07-31 05:11:16 · answer #3 · answered by chickingirl19 2 · 0 0

Will it do any good for me to answer this question..... let me guess ; if you are saying that you have a problem with being faith full and committing yourself, why do you think of asking some bored people to tell you if it's wrong to cheat on someone you love. I think you already have given the answer yourself.
O and just a basic thingy out of the history of my education;;;
cheating is always wrong for you

2006-07-31 05:13:13 · answer #4 · answered by Ole sos 1 · 0 0

If U can't commit, then UR not in love. Even the most scared ppl are willing to try when in love. So maybe you shouldn't try to settle down. There is nothing wrong with just dating around. Just be safe. And becareful cheating on someone. You have to think of their feelings, not your own. Maybe their scared too. Being scared and in love is a wonderful thing.

2006-07-31 05:07:51 · answer #5 · answered by Gremlin 2 · 0 0

Not sure that you do love this person.
Don't blame it on commitment issues. That's garbage. A cop out. An easier way of saying that you don't want to commit yourself to them. It says "I don't love you, but wait! It's not your fault! So stick around 'cause maybe one day I will love you". It means that you don't have the balls to be honest, cause you'd rather be with them then by yourself. A person with commitment issues is not afraid of commitment, they are afraid to commit to this one person, whoever it is.
When you love someone, for real, you would never consider doing anything that would hurt their feelings. Including things that they may "never find out about". You'll know what you did.
Cheating is never the answer.
The reason you can't commit to or be faithful to this person is because you don't want to. That's why I don't think you are in love.
Let them go, and go find the person who you do actually want to commit to, and be faithful to. It's not nice to keep somebody around until you find somebody better.

2006-07-31 05:14:15 · answer #6 · answered by niffer's mom 4 · 0 0

You simply don't know what it's that you want, otherwise you wouldn't be feeling the way you are and yes cheating is bad if your going out with someone because that means you are not be honest with that person. Isn't all relationships based on honesty. well it should be the first thing you should look for in a person!

2006-07-31 05:08:31 · answer #7 · answered by Jas 2 · 0 0

You owe it to others to NOT be in a relationship then! Besides all of the emotional pain you could cause your partner, what about possible exposure to STD's? Even if you think you're being careful, it could happen. Would you really want to give someone an STD because you couldn't be honest with yourself or them? From now on, be up front with people you date...tell them you're not looking for commitment or an exclusive relationship.

2006-07-31 05:07:41 · answer #8 · answered by Kiki 6 · 0 0

You are obviously not in love. If you love someone than you do things to make that person happy, not to hurt them. Cheating is definately something you do to hurt people. So get out of the relationship and stop messing with this person's feelings.

2006-07-31 05:07:09 · answer #9 · answered by Rare Hero 2 · 0 0

yes cheating is bad, I dont care if your in love with that person or not if your in a committed relationship the cheating is just wrong!!!! No matter what the reason or excuse, its a choice and if you chose to be with different partners you shouldnt be in a committed relationship its that simple!

2006-07-31 05:08:20 · answer #10 · answered by connys1976 3 · 0 0

Cheating is obviously bad.If u cant b faithful 2 him I think u should tell him about ur tue feelings.Mybe u can b friends.He will forgive u if he loves u.if he gets 2 know it from sum1 else he might feel bad.If u care n love him u should just say it to him.n dont make such relations where u have to cheat n have problems being faithful.

2006-08-08 04:52:08 · answer #11 · answered by rs_sa2008 1 · 0 0

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