After you go out all day with your child (15 months old ) and dont get home till late,,,,?

Question

do u think its a good idea to keep him home from daycare the next day so the day care provider doesnt have to deal with him being cranky and that he can be rested for when he goes back the following day

he has been going to this day care since he was 9 months old and I go to school full time and this is only a one time thing we have never done this b4 and will not again we were with family all day and most of the night till we came home

Answer 1

If you don't have anything pressing to do and are able to stay home with him, I'd probably keep him home so he can get caught up on his sleep, then resume your "normal" schedule the following day. It's nice to know there are others out there that are considerate...good for you!

Answer 2

Its personal preference, however the daycares are usually capable of handling cranky children. Not every child is an angel each and every day they are in attendance. Just as if you were a stay at home mom, you would have to deal with the happy and cranky moods.

If you have to pay whether your child attends or not (as most daycares are) i would send him. Best to get your money's worth. ANd maybe his mood wont be so bad, or if it is, the interaction with the other kids or coloring might help his mood improve.

Answer 3

Here's a different take...

Since you took your child out 'all day and didn't get home till late' should that not be a responsibilty issue instead of consequence issue?

I mean... a responsible parent would consider these factors before keeping a child out late. Especially if they knew that the following day would be difficult on the child and they (the parent) would have to go work. The parent in this case is off-loading the consequences of their irresponsibility and actions onto to someone else.

A good parent considers the consquences of their actions and handles things appropriately. It sounds to me as if you're looking for an excuse to stay home and not go to work because you stayed out too late the night before.

Answer 4

NICHD has been studying the separation of children from their mothers for decades. What they've learned is that if a child enters day care before age 3, and for most kids, before age 5, they are seriously damaged by this. First, the attachment between mom and child is damaged, the dad's approval of the child is damaged, the child's IQ is damaged, the child's social skills are damaged. The child is at great risk for depression and anxiety.

And, guess what - these results hold true even if daddy is the caregiver, if a full-time live-in nanny is provided, or if the day care is of the highest quality.

Why? Human infants evolved to need their mother's arms and mother's milk to grow optimally. Separating from mom floods a baby's brain with stress hormones, impairing the child's ability to learn and to regulate its emotions.

In addition, and perhaps most critically, the baby is currently forming his view of the world. Is the world reliable, a safe place, can i trust? Now picture him in day care, screaming for mommy (oh, they'll lie and say he doesn't) and you never come. What does he learn about you and about life? What does he learn about his effectiveness to get his needs met? What does he learn about what you think of his needs for love and affection?

Do you really want to teach your poor dear baby all those things? Last point, day care is far harder on boys than girls. Please don't do this to your child. He didn't ask to be born; he desparately doesn't want to grow up in an institution with a mommy who schedules in a few 'quality' minutes for him every day.

What you will miss by abandoning him to day care is immeasurable. My friends and I who actually raised our babies are always amazed by how totally detached from their kids our working friends became, how utterly unaware of children's needs and rythyms they became.

Day care is a lousy way to grow up. Up and Out in the rain, out in the freezing, out in the sweltering, never with mommy to share excitement, loyalties to the primary caregiver (who must become 'mommy' if she's gonna do a good job.) Why would you do this to your kid?

Source(s):

http://www.geocities.com/wellesley/garde... = lots of info on harms of day care
The Irreducible Needs of Children, a book by Brazleton
http://www.naturalchild.org wonderful site on kids' true needs

Answer 5

No, child should go to daycare. Otherwise sooner or later the child will catch on and then will try to control the situation. Your child is growing he/she will catch on. Try not to spend the whole day out with the child remember the child is still young and it isn't fair to them.

Answer 6

sleep in a little, a good day care provider will roll with it and understand. Once in a while will not hurt anyone, as long as you have a consistant routine and little diversion occasionly won't hurt.
Also..... my children are articulate, intelligent , loving and very attached to both their working father and mother. Contrary to the guilt garbage being suggested... and I am still in touch with my children's natural rthymns.

Answer 7

it is hard for all children to be away from their parents and he may throw tantrums, but he need to get used to a schedule and if it is the wrong one than it will be harder to stop the tantrums.

As much as a heart ache a complaining child may be to a daycare worker....that is their job and they know how to handle it. in the end it is up to you what you do, but keep in mind that he will eventually give in to the schedule you put him in if you are consistent and firm.

Answer 8

Honestly, if you have the time and ability to stay home with him on that occassion I would. But if you have to work and it's just another busy day, take him to day care, give them fair warning and go about your day as ussual. They are paid professionals and if they can't handle a grumpy little one, you need to find another day care. Just my opinion and I hope it helps.

Answer 9

if it were me I wouldn't I would keep his schedule as constant as I could changing the consistancy he knows can make him even crankier, but it is a personal dicission by you the mother

Answer 10

That's personal preference.