my ex keeps introducing my six year old son to new girl friends their has been about six they never last longer than a few month and my son then cant under stand why they dont come round any more and gets really upset, i have told my ex how this affects him and he says he will not do it again but i have the feeling it is happening the now he came back last night and said that he was with is dads friend and that he really iked her. my ex has got my son again and is sittin with a few friends but i asked who was in and he got funny should i go and get him i dont want to make a fool of my self if im wrong
2006-07-31 05:01:48 · 20 answers · asked by clairexxxx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I wouldnt let him take the son when he was going out with his gfs. that isnt right to introduce a kid to someone who probably wont be around. my father did that when my parents got divorced and i was heartbroken when a few of the girls went away. i would tell the ex if he wants to take the kid that he has to be him and his guy friends, no girlfriends. id go get him, or stop by to see exactly who was there.
2006-07-31 05:05:59 · answer #1 · answered by lacia2159 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've done the right thing by asking him. You can not be a fool for showing concern for your son.
If you think your son is suffering due to the situation you could try askin your ex not to introduce your son to his girlfriend unless the relationship is serious.
It's a very difficult situation. Is your son going to come to any emotional or physical harm by being with his dad and dads friends. If you think he could be you should absolutly go and get. Trust your mothering instincts. They are rarely wrong.
I hope it all goes well for all of you
2006-07-31 05:09:54 · answer #2 · answered by beanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is bad for your lad. go back to the family court/solicitor and tell them what is going on. they should agree that this is wrong and try to arrange other situations for your son and his dad to spend time together. you may also like to think about family counselling, even if this doesnt work at least you have tried to sort this out and the family court will look favourably on YOU! hope this helps, i have also been through the mill with my ex, though different circumstances to yours so this is why i know the options avavilable to you. all the luck to you both.
2006-07-31 06:14:40 · answer #3 · answered by tina t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not in the wrong. but it would make you look silly if you went round there.
sit him down and make a rule that if he is gonna get busy with all the girls then he needs to realise that your son is not old enough to understand.
im presuming he is his dad or at least close to your son so if he wants to do the right thing then he needs to keep his relationships quiet untill he finds someone he plans on being with for a long time.
if he keeps doing it, give him a slap from me!
2006-07-31 05:08:51 · answer #4 · answered by DEMON 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An Aston Martin DBS (Bonds motor vehicle in on line casino Royale). A Knighthood. Keira Knightly. to be waiting to smoke interior the pub back. to pass in to area. A Penthouse flat on the Thames. President Robert Mugabe to be faraway from workplace (he's a knob) for little ones international to get a honest crack at life. A Rolex Seadweller.
2016-10-01 07:25:18 · answer #5 · answered by Erika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should consider looking into supervised visits if your ex can't respect a reasonable request in the interest of your son's well-being. new partners should not be introduced to kids for 6 months to a year. i bet your ex is just being lazy and getting these girls to feel sorry for him using your kid. see a solicitor about restricting his visits to when you are both there..the other women won't want to participate.
2006-07-31 05:12:34 · answer #6 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no concrete answer to this,only suggestions and advice,as with everything it is important to keep focused on your son and not on the activities of your ex,yes it will be confusing for your lad but he will draw his own conclusions as to how he sees things.as long as you keep constant then he will be fine.To stop contact with his dad i feel wouldn't help and would just confuse him more.try asking your ex to be a bit more thoughtful in his actions and also try to relax and take a step back now and again.good luck
2006-07-31 05:17:37 · answer #7 · answered by DEAN G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that u should talk to ur ex face to face with ur child and let him know whats up. Let the child talk and try to explain it ot him. Because I grew up like that and ending up hating my dad till this day. Cause I felt like he should have not left my mom. I stayed with him and he always had girls around and I didn't understand. So tell ur child with ur ex and let the child tell how he is feeling. Good luck
2006-07-31 05:09:43 · answer #8 · answered by kinghillery 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn how to spell and how to string a grammatically correct sentence together. Perhaps you'll choose future partners more carefully so this doesn't happen again.
2006-07-31 05:09:10 · answer #9 · answered by The Findleys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop him seeing your son for a couple of weeks. it doesnt have to be a permanent thing but your ex doesnt need to know that. he'll soon stop doing what he's doing and fall into line. he's wrong to do this.
2006-07-31 05:06:50 · answer #10 · answered by iloveF1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋