hi, can you answer this one?

Question

ok , I have super strict parents, i'm talking about, no dating, no hanging out with friends alot, and no talking on the phone with GUYS..anyway, i like someone alot, he was in my highschool, and we got to know eachother when school was almost over....and he feels the same way about me...i don't know what to do, we're in touch by emails and i sometimes call him when no one is around, so is there a chance of me having a relationship with him?..we really wanna be with eachother, but we're stuck, and i can't think of ideas...do you have one?..plz help me out

Answer 1

If you have to sneak behind your parents' backs to see this guy, he's not worth it. You should be honest with your parents, let them meet him, he can go ask their permission to talk to you.

If your parents still won't let you see him, that's their perrogative. You are underage and will not be able to run your own life until you are 18 and moved out of their house.

Answer 2

Well of course your parents are strict for a reason, they care about you alot and don't want you to end up hurt not only physically but mentally as well. So answer this question " Do you really think that, that guy you like are going to stay together longer then 5 years, how about 7 years"? You should just wait because most high school guys are not serious about dating in high school. Some just do it just to do it because they just want someone. So even though you really like this guy you to should just be real good friends.

Answer 3

Well if you're in high school you should let your parents know that you are growing up now and you're in high school which means that there will be dances which include boys. If they don't want to listen to you then tell them you would like to go to a family counselor. I know when I started high school my counselor told my dad who was a single parent that he has to face it that I will be going out with boys and some of those boys may be seniors when I'm a freshman. That's just the way it is and always has been. I am sure your parents didn't talk to one sex until they were twenty now. Hope it works out for you. Oh and when I was your age I would still talk to the boy.

Answer 4

This is a tough situation that lots of kids find themselves in, and it's hard to answer because I don't know how willing you are to find a solution. You're going to have to confront your parents about this problem they have with you and dating if you ever want to have a chance. I personally believe it's wrong to bar your children from dating, because it almost always backfires.

For one thing, it shows that the parents are ignorant (to put it bluntly) when it comes to raising their kids. Barring your children from dating keeps them from learning about what to look for in a mate. This makes it next to impossible for them to have a decent relationship when they finally are old enough (18) to legally make their own decisions. This is stuff that takes years of experience to figure out for most people.

Sometimes barring children from dating can have even worse effects. Often times, the children become rebellious, and date others in secret, and/or worse, give into the sexual cravings they don't know how to control and make mistakes that they would normally not so easily make.

Your best bet is to make these points when you talk to them, although, I'd recommend not calling them ignorant. Just make sure that you make it clear that you can be a responsible girl and know how to take care of yourself. You know deep down, as well as they do, that not dating until your older isn't the answer.

Now if they don't understand that logic, maybe you should make your point a little more clear. You've respected their wishes long enough by waiting until highschool. You're a big girl now, and you're getting closer to that age where they won't have any control over you anymore. It's time they started treating you more like an adult instead of trying to "protect" you from making all the painful mistakes that they did when they were younger, because I'll be damned if they didn't make some of their own.

Let them know that YOU completely realize that they are trying to keep you from making the wrong decisions in life, but your counter for that is that you won't know what they are until you make them yourself and learn from it.

Answer 5

The best advice I can give you is to have a sit down with your parents. It is a shame they are as strict as they are and I hope they loosen the reins just a little bit... maybe you should suggest they go on a chaperoned date with you and your flame. Whatever you do, do not start seeing this boy behind your parents back because the truth always comes to light and you do not want to give them a reason to trust you less then they already do.

Answer 6

Since I do not know how old you are that makes it really hard... if you live under your parents roof then you have to follow their rules. Sneaking here and there is ok I guess... all teenagers do it. As long as your guy friend knows what is going on. Maybe if he came over one night and spoke with your father and told him his intentions ...maybe that would make it easier. It is always easier to confront parents when you are together and maybe it will help your parents see that you are serious about this guy and he is serious about you.

Answer 7

If you read the questions on here you will see WHY your parents are so strict. I am sure it is difficult right now but in the end you will be better off. School is about to start and you can see him then. Good luck.

Answer 8

Depends on your age, maybe you can talk to your parents and see if they can start letting you hang out with your girlfriends first. Take baby steps dear to prove your responsible enough. It's all about your maturity level, Do you keep your room clean and do your chores without being told. Your parents take this into account when deciding what your ready for.

Answer 9

go for it.i kno what u mean tho.tell the guy about the parent situation if u already havent,and maybe talk to ur parents about it.dont tell them that anything is happening tho,jus be hypothetically speaking.and talk to the parent who is more likely to give.i think it would probably be ur mom but who nows.anyway try it and i hope it works out for u.

Answer 10

You are just going to have to fight you parents over this one. You both like each other a lot. You can't have your parents stop you from actually having a life outside of your home.If you both like each other a lot, then you will have a chance outside of school. You will have to find on school activities(like I had to do with my girlfriend) to spend time with him.