Should I wait for him or not? HELP!?

Question

okay i am 15 years old. i was with this guy for like 3 months. i loved him i really did. i gave it up and then a week later he says we should just be friends. he has his senior year coming up with football and he has a job and he says that he wants what is best for me and that right now he cant do that. i feel like i was played but he said he loved me once and i thought it was real. was it too good to be trur? he sais when he gets everything together like job and school that he would come running back to me. what do i do? i have sea cadets with him. and i will see him every month. we are friends i guess but when i call he is always in a rush to get off the phone. it hurts i gave it him and broke my promise with God for him and hes acting like nothing ever happend. should i just move on and not call and let him call me and wait or just forget about it? please give me some advice

Answer 1

Maybe he was telling the truth when he said he loved you. It might just be that he doesnt want to ruin everything for you because you are still young and he wont be able to spend much of his time with you because of his schedule. He may really just want the best for you. I say you should be friends, and see how that is. Maybe that would work better because with friends, its not so demanding to see the person/ talk to the person as it is when you are dating or in a serious relationship. He may have wanted you to get out and expeience life without being committed so early in life to one person. You need to get out and have fun while you are young. Dont worry about little situations like this. You may not think it is little, but it is. I say let things just work themselve sout. If later down the road you two want to get back together and you both htink it will work, then go have a relaitonship. But dont stress over it right now. Do what you think would be best for you. About the phone calls and him rushing to get off the phone, he may be busy with his job. Or he might not know exactly what to say to you at the current time with all this other stuff going on. It might be stressing him out as well. Why dont you try talking to him about what you posted in here and see what he has to say about it? Would that work? Just let things work themselves out. If you need to talk to someone, I have been in this same relationship for the most part and I am willing to talk if you need someone to talk to. My email address is [e-mail] and my AIM SN is lacia2159. Hope this helps.

Answer 2

Just to let you know, I'm a 20 year old guy who's a senior in college, so you're going to get an opinion from a male perspective who has already been through all the high school drama/situations. Personally, I believe at 15 years old, no one can really understand what true romantic love is. At this time in everyone's life you're experiencing all kinds of different feelings and most people confuse infatuation and/or lust with love. Also, I just don't believe you can figure out if you truly love someone within 3 months time. Of course I'm a realist and not a hopeless romantic so my opinion is slightly biased. I hate to be blunt and I don't want to sound rude, but from the sounds of things, after he got what he wanted he broke up with you. And the fact that he is in a rush to get off the phone with you shows either he is confused as well or he's just not interested in a relationship with you. But for him to act like nothing even happened obviously shows that he does not respect your feelings. There's a lot of people in the world like that and that's just a harsh fact of life.

Everyone makes mistakes and everyone gets their heart broken and you will probably get your heart broken several more times as you go through high school. It's all part of growing up, and the best thing you can do is look at it as a learning experience. So to answer your question, don't wait on him. You're way too young to be caught up on one guy, especially if you only dated him for three months. Go out with your friends, enjoy life, and don't get stuck on just one guy. Good luck w/ everything.

Answer 3

Damn...Looks like that man used you - He will leave you and your memory again for someone else given half the chance - move on, and be a little less ready to give yourself up like that to a guy - making it too easy will undoubtedly have many men taking advantage of you.

But it is pointless thinking about the bad now, you will learn from this mistake, you were duped - he does not want to be with you - you are young and if he really was even serious about the commitment he wouldn't need time away from you to sort his life out - you would be doing it together - he is not worth your time, and you need a man who is sincere and can treat you better - Do not take him back even if he asks, move on.

Answer 4

1st @ ur age never believe what boys say!! They'll lie just to get into ur pants and then make excuses for why they can't be with u.. If he luved u then he wouldn't be making up excuses now would he.. He's probably moving on to his next unsuspecting victim..

Ur like what a FRESHMAN, so what exactly is he supposed to be able to do for u?? @ that age guys r not thinking about taking care of anyone other than there needs, and yeah they might buy u something, or be extra nice but that's the game they play to get some....

don't feel bad though because it was a lesson learned.. which means learn from this lesson and don't let it happen again.. girls have to think like guys and think smarter to.. u have to be one step of ahead of them.. u gotta know there game plan because in high school that's what it is for most of them..

next time if u make a promise to GOD or to urself don't break it for anyone..

and no u shouldn't call him.. he said what he said and now u need to accept it for what it is.. ur to young to be worried about the consequences for having sex...

good luck

Answer 5

I think you just found out what every parent alive already knows. Guys just want to get into your pants and that is exactly what he did. He got what he wanted and now he is probably going after some other girl. You need to make peace with what happened and move on. He is not worth calling or crying over. If he comes running back to you then you remember not to let it happen again. Guys can be jerks sometimes but you need to remember that your self-respect is far more important than love.

Answer 6

My heart goes for you. But you have to move on. He already told you that what he wants is the best for you and he loved you once so that means its over for him. Probably he as having a hard time juggling work, school and other activities. Your still young, there are so many prince around...don't call him anymore. If you are really meant for each other then you will still meet in the future and who knows he will court you again. Be positive in life. Go out with your friends and try to cultivate your talents and personality. You will meet your prince later on, sooner than you expect.

Answer 7

Well welcome to the real world ! Don't expect this to be the last time this happens ! You fell right into that old trap its ageless! ummm look just try not to make the same mistake over and over again as a guy Im telling you that if you say I love you to a girl most of the time you get what you want theres no offense its just business ! Ok Im kidding about that but really dont fall for those lines just except it as a good lesson and try not to do it again !

Answer 8

Why are you putting up with his crap? Sounds like he need to grow up. When he said he would come running back to you, you should have asked him what made him think that you would be waiting...you have a life to live. For now be friends. In the mean time if you or him find someone else then it was not meant for the two of you to be together. Best wishes.

Answer 9

My best advice is to keep your nose in your books and your underwear on. You are 15 for the love of God. There will be plenty of time for sex, boys, and heartache. Life is full of all of it, but you have to remember, if you want to have good times your going to have survive the bad ones. In addition remember, you are going through the worst period in life emotionally and physically and it takes your body and mind years to settle down. Your emotions can be toyed with easily because they are wild and ungoverned. Do your sea cadets, garner some personal discipline about dating, and have a good time with your true friends. Life is tough, you just have to be tougher. Pray and may the lord bless you.

Answer 10

yeah it's too good to be true...it's quite obvious that he doesn't want you anylonger...my study my job my whatever is nothing but a very lame xcuse that's all about it...he wants to give you sumtimes so you can forget him...and i'm sure he once listed here that how should i go about gettin rid of a relationship without hurtin the gurl ?!!
you're 15...the best thing i can say is don't go sooo deep and far into relations you'll be turned down
and forget about this one guy and move on i can bet it won't work out ever again
goodluck