I wrote before, I have a brother and sister , the rest of my immediate family past away, My boyfriend makes me feel lilke I am something. All are arguements are because of my sister. Now I don't have anywhere to go but stay here with her. My boyfriend says he loves me but he's afraid. I try to tell him I will stand by him, I will, but it doesn't seem to be enough. I spend all my money buy phone cards to talk to him, now my sister tells me I can't use her phone to call him and he can't call here. I tried to go see him, but he sent me back up here. Once again, I'm alone and feel so useless. I don't know what to do, please tell me someone!
2006-07-31 04:49:22 · 13 answers · asked by tooshy46 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
get a life. their are others in the sea...thousands of others..and stand by him and hes afraid...let me guess in jail somewhere? and quit spending ALL your money on a loser.
2006-07-31 04:53:31 · answer #1 · answered by Jack Kerouac 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should learn to love yourself for who you are. You're a worthwhile person, all by yourself. You don't need a man to validate your existence - no matter who he might be - and you don't need anyone to approve of you or what you do.
You're the only one who can make yourself happy. The happiness of others is just temporary, but the happiness you create from inside yourself is permanent. It's okay to be sad and unsure of things. But you have to believe in yourself to get thru. You can only truly depend on you. No one can do this for you.
Sometimes religion and faith in God can help. Other times, it's just finding something that you truly love doing that you think you do well. Writing down your feelings or maybe doing something creative like poetry, art, or music can be an outlet - and it doesn't matter if it's good or not. It only matters if it captures your feeling or desire. Talking to someone can be helpful, too. Doing good things for people without expecting anything in return is also a way to help get to know yourself.
Take care of yourself, be good to yourself, be true to yourself, have faith in yourself, like yourself, and good things will follow. It may take a while, and it's an on-going and difficult process, but you'll get there. And once you do, you'll realize that you have so much to offer the world, all by yourself.
I got thru a rough patch last year myself. So I understand where you're coming from. Best of luck to you.
2006-07-31 12:07:40 · answer #2 · answered by Cassie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hum, for starters how old are you? It's hard to give advice when the age is a question....if you are old enough to work, I say get a job providing your out of school....can you talk to your brother? Is he not there? Is it possible for you to stay with him, a freind? And aunt or uncle? If your in your 20's or so I say get out there and get on your own.Everyone reached a point in life where they need to take control of their lives....if your a teen I suggest you try to make the best of it until you are able to work and save our moola. There are always comunity centers you can go to that may have free programs just to keep you busy and meet new people....you can never have too many freinds:o)
2006-07-31 12:01:42 · answer #3 · answered by Poptart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear this but you need to pull yourself up and say to yourself, "I'm worth something to me." Your relationship with your boyfriend may not last forever and unless your find value within yourself, it's doomed to fail anyway. Find some confidence in yourself. Take some classes - see a counselor - do something to instill value in the one person who will always be with you and the one person who can help you through life - yourself. Men may come and go but who you are is a constant. Good luck.
2006-07-31 11:55:20 · answer #4 · answered by Lex 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patience...
You need time to meet new friends. If you are feeling lost (dependant) on a boy firend, then maybe you really should take the time to get to know yourself and become independant. You should be happy with who you are and feel comfortable alone... its only then that you will make a good partner for someone.
Peace
2006-07-31 11:55:54 · answer #5 · answered by Sir Greggath 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know you love him but dont you think if your sister doesnt approve maybe there is something wrong with him that you dont see because you are blinded by the love? maybe you should sit down and have a calm talk and talk to her about it and find out why she doesnt want you to have contact with him...try to take her advice and learn more about it. if your family doesnt like your boyfriend...he obviously isnt good enough for you. i recommend trying to find someone new and talking to your sister more.
2006-07-31 11:55:10 · answer #6 · answered by iWorkonComputers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is forget about yourself and do things to make other people's existences better. That will give you great satisfaction and sense of purpose, and you may meet someone better.
2006-07-31 11:54:22 · answer #7 · answered by kreevich 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing cures a broken heart like a new love, MOVE ON.
Desperation is a stinky cologne
2006-07-31 11:54:14 · answer #8 · answered by landerscott 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call from a payphone, you can use the card there can't you? Be patient. Good things come to good people.
2006-07-31 11:53:40 · answer #9 · answered by reza h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your sister is trying to protect you, u should move on theres alot of good men out there and your find the right one
2006-07-31 11:56:24 · answer #10 · answered by eyes_kitty_green 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋