my mom said that she wanted me to not have anymore serious relationships until highschool and so i have to respect my mom so i did it and broke up with him and i am not feeling so great , its hard because i still have feelings and we have been dating since january , another reason is because he is not a christian and that is something i am looking for in a guy also so , what do i do?
2006-07-31 04:48:22 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are thirteen, focus on your school and your friends. You don't need a boy in your life yet. Have friends that are boys, not boyfriends. When the time comes, you will find a boyfriend, but I don't think now is the time. You, and only you, not your mother or father, sister or brother, will know when it is the right time, but then you will find that right person. It may not be in high school, it may not be in college, but eventually time will come.
But until then, have a lot of fun.
2006-07-31 04:53:29 · answer #1 · answered by Brian H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly understandable that you are experiencing lots of strong "crush" feelings toward your boyfriend. A crush is very powerful and very intoxicating because you feel very special around this guy. But, don't get confused between a crush and true love. True love that lasts is not boring and dreadful like Hollywood likes to portray and that marriage is like a death sentence.
A crush is all about yourself and how you feel. True love is about truly loving your partner for life and it's deeper and more wonderful and powerful than any hollywood movie can portray. True love takes a lot of maturity (which our culture lacks sometimes) and grows deeper over months and even deeper over years.
Right now it's OK to not be mature enough for true love b'cause you are only 13 and you are not supposed to be totally focused on another person right now. Enjoy your teen years! Crushes are great and wonderful experiences. But, remember- they call them crushes for a reason....they always crash and burn. The intense feelings that aren't based on true love will eventually come back to reality. So, take crushes for what they are. Look foward for true love that awaits! (please don't make the mistake of having sex with your crushes...but this is another conversation...sorry)
2006-07-31 12:17:38 · answer #2 · answered by traptnsouth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang out with friends and do things to get your mind off him. Now i said to get your mind off him but don't forget about him. Sometimes it is just good to talk about things with family or friends.
As for the christian thing, i totally agree. To be honest, I'd wait a little while. You have a while till marriage and enough time to find that right guy. You wanna enjoy life without guys in the picture, it just makes stress. I am gonna be 16 and I only had 1 boyfriend in my life.
2006-07-31 11:51:52 · answer #3 · answered by j5kat13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Hillary,
All you have to do is concentrate on your studies. Mom is right, it's for your own good to wait til the right time. I understand the hurt feelings, but the experience will make you stronger than before. Live life to the fullest. Go out with your friends. Life is too good to sulk around, okay? Cheer up, damsel.
2006-07-31 11:55:43 · answer #4 · answered by redzcythe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you meet another guy that u like, go for it. Regarding your brokeup, don´t worry, girl, your are just 13, enjoy life, meet people, travel, experience life. Have all the bf you want, as long as you feel conformtable and don´t let any body put pressure on u to do something u are not sure.
Don´t worry.....BE HAPPY!!!!
2006-07-31 11:55:00 · answer #5 · answered by Fernando 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I broke up with my first serious boyfriend, I got a job to get my mind off of him. I worked pretty well, and I met a lot of cool people.
2006-07-31 11:54:02 · answer #6 · answered by littlebit449 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me on this 1 he will get a new gf and probably knows that so he probably doesn't care a bit and the only reason he was with u at that age is cause he thought u were hot and well u get the point so u should move along and get a new bf
2006-07-31 11:52:02 · answer #7 · answered by CloudStrife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make out with lots of other boys. You will forget him, just don't let kissing get beyond kissing. Then you will end up on Maury Povich trying to figure out who the Father is.
2006-07-31 11:55:25 · answer #8 · answered by raiderking69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl i know EXACTLY how you feel. i am sixteen and just broke up with the love of my life. to get over him, get yourself occupied by parties, friends and social groups. remember that you are young and life has just started for you and there will be many more relationships. he is just not the one for you.
2006-07-31 12:05:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can't be serious at 13! A first bf I get, but u can't be in love. Give it time. Stay busy.
2006-07-31 11:59:54 · answer #10 · answered by samantha wilson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋