i think i am really afraid of men i dont know why i can talk them and maintain eye cotact if i am not going out with one but as soon as i start dating i get really terified. I am 19 and find this really childish help.
2006-07-31 04:41:26 · 11 answers · asked by bintaj01 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, it's not childish. You just haven't found the Man yet. I was afraid too; then I fell deeply in love and now everything is OK (even though he dropped me after five years - it was still good to be together :) )
You know, I am also picky. I get really scared by people who are less smart than me (because I feel vulnerable if I am not appreciated, I guess, for what I am). I know that sounds really pretentious, but that's the way I am. There somebody for everybody, relax and take your time. Good luck!
2006-07-31 04:50:37 · answer #1 · answered by AlphaOne_ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is just insecurity....Maybe you are sensitive and afraid that you are going to be judged or hurt. Read the book, "The Power of Positive Thinking", and also know this,,,the other person is usually nervous too..they asked you out...they want to make a good impression and fear you may regect something about them too. . I think maybe for you, when you first start going out with someone, it might be best if you did things where other ppl were around..like the zoo, a concert, a ball game..until you know each other better and can start to communicate on a more intimate level. I hope this helps!
2006-07-31 04:53:47 · answer #2 · answered by dogsrulecatsqtime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not childish at all. I am 16 and I think I may be a bit afraid of men also. Not completely afraid.. I still hang out with male people.. alot of my friends are.. but I think it may have something to do with all the negative portrayals of men in the news and media. You hardly ever see men in the news anymore unless it is for rape or murders. It's not strictly true but it's what I came up with when I questioned myself about it. You can try just having your friends introduce you to guys that they know are really nice- just as friends at first so you can get to know that not all guys are bad guys
2006-07-31 04:43:22 · answer #3 · answered by CJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh darling it's not childish at all. Maybe you've had bad experiences that might not be that evident eg bullying at school but it will soon blow over. Just give it time. Hope you get some answers that help you. Good luck
2006-07-31 04:46:10 · answer #4 · answered by toots 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe ur not afraid of them ur just nervous of what they will try 2 do sexually but not all men r like that relax and get to know them dont forget ur the one in control hope that helps a little
2006-07-31 04:55:49 · answer #5 · answered by juicylucy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you scared or just nervous? And whichever way you are feeling, it's not childish, it's human! And as long as you recognize it and want to deal with, more power to you!
If you are scared, what are you scared of? Have you thought about talking to a counselor?
2006-07-31 04:53:19 · answer #6 · answered by Shaun M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well do u have any guy friends? start by talking to them and when u talk to them about anything really look at there eyes. since there your friends they won't care. Just don't be nervous about guys. Go out with someone your comfortable with there has to be soemone.
2006-07-31 04:46:44 · answer #7 · answered by Got_a_question? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you're affraid of? i mean what you think is gonna happen?
first you have to find out that what's that thing inside you which tells you not to do it all the time or scares you...you know all the guyz and gurls doin that...then Y not you?!!!
maybe you don't wish to spoil you image coz U know u'll end up lyin in bed...or you're kindda scared that wut if this wouldn work out...or wut if he's toyin you...or the worst case scenario cops will find you dead thru sum remote area
first try to find out the reason then ask your question again to get better answer
2006-07-31 04:52:35 · answer #8 · answered by CherOkeeGurL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax... and try and be yourself. Dont put too much pressure on what you say, where your eyes are looking. Be natural.
2006-07-31 04:45:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to want to get over that fear and just say am going to do this i believe in myself i no i can do it
2006-07-31 04:44:23 · answer #10 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋