When it comes to my b/f I am such a pushover and I hate it.. I do it for the sake of not arguing.I can tell he's beginning to take advantage of it...I really need some tips...good ones plz!
2006-07-31 04:35:33 · 10 answers · asked by blacktinkerbellstars 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The mere fact that you acknowledge that you're a pushover means that somehow you have lost your sense of "self" and you're trying to compensate the loss by allowing your boyfriend to take advantage of you. Doing this makes you feel important and wanted. There is nothing wrong with that. But ask yourself this: Is this what you really want?
It is admirable that you do not want to argue-- that is a sign that in the relationship you are showing unconditional love-- the ultimate sacrifice.
No one can give you any tips about how to feel in your situation, you just need affirmation that what you're doing is OK. Know what you want and you will know if everything is OK.
2006-07-31 04:49:24 · answer #1 · answered by stardustalpha2010 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time u feel urself being pushed around,stand up for urself.say no.arguing is ok.dont worry about it.if someone takes advantage of u its not right.ur a human being,and u have opinions and feelings too.let that be heard.arguing is part of life and shouldnt be ignored.be confident in ur self and dont let anyone tell u otherwise.
2006-07-31 04:39:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so i became right into a pushover as quickly as too i never enjoyed it whilst my buddies get pissed or some thing so i consistently did what they say till i comprehend i'm a pushover and stuff so nicely i desperate that i'm actual pleased with it for some unusual unusual reason yet now for some unusual reason i'm no longer a pushover this is probably cuz I actual have a competitve spirit and stuff and that i hate to be decrease than others and yea i hate it whilst somebody gets credit for what i did and stuff yet whilst i became into youthful i in simple terms wanted every person else to be chuffed (i nonetheless do yet in basic terms with some ppl) i mean get a life you acquire your guy or woman life question: would you suicide on your dad's life? of coarse nsome ppl would think of of me as harsh yet think of of it in simple terms think of of it in case you had a great life and your dad is ninety like hes think to die at that age and you have a great long life to stay with kinfolk and a great interest you have like each thing and then a homicide tells you to the two suicide or hes gonna shoot your ninety twelve months old dad that truly is possibly gonna die in like what a twelve months or 2? i mean easy would you fairly supply up your great perfect life for somebody else? in case you answer sure then you certainly're a large pushover(interior im questioning i'd say sure so incredibly i'm a pushover yet who cares??? that in simple terms potential ppl like me much extra that i care he he yet i additionally do look after myself sorta) how bout this in case you're uncertain would you preserve a cat that wasn't even yours from being run over yet interior the consequence you get a broken arm and leg??? think of approximately it fairly is time you're taking value on your guy or woman self in simple terms remeber there is often 3 ppl that loves you :me, myself, and that i (yet dont be this way of self based snob in simple terms stability it)
2016-10-08 12:54:37 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time he wants you to do something, say calmly and firmly, "no". He needs to realise that you are a person with feelings too, and there are things that you do or do not want.
Fights are sometimes neccessary, and they are just a part of life, so get used to them.
Be strong, and stand up for yourself!!!
xxjes
2006-07-31 04:38:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to start telling him whats on your mind. If what you have to say starts an argument, then he is just not the one for you. U deserve to be treated like a queen.
2006-07-31 04:40:47 · answer #5 · answered by newyorkpiece 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow are you in trouble if you are already doing that and hes just your bf can you immagine a life married to someone that manipulates you like that ! Wise the hell up!
2006-07-31 04:39:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun i say straigh up leave him...its not wirth it if u have t o ask a Q like this. It's time to find soeone who will appreciate you :-)
2006-07-31 04:39:21 · answer #7 · answered by Jochle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yoga. yoga. yoga. take yoga to get more confident.
no one wants a pushover in the long run.
conflicts are necessary.
yoga will give you the guts.
2006-07-31 04:38:12 · answer #8 · answered by BonesofaTeacher 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
stand up for yourself. nobody respects a pushover. if you do not respect yourself how can anyone else?
2006-07-31 04:42:37 · answer #9 · answered by oneluckygalluckygal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try lying down!
2006-07-31 05:21:12 · answer #10 · answered by KADTHECOOL! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋