As parents of an alcoholic how do we avoid enabling the habit yet remain loving and supportive?

Question

Our son is an adult, not living with us.

Answer 1

You have to roll with the punches. I suggest you attend Al-Anon meetings for family members if alcoholics. They can really help you a lot.
Remember they are not drinking because of you. Their life has spiraled out of control and they can no longer manage their lives. Nothing you can do will make them stop. they need to come to the realization on their own. Most of the time it gets much worse before it gets better
So check out alanon and get some support for YOU.
God bless you guys and good luck!!
Eddie
Gratefully recovering

Answer 2

Step in and let them see what the consequences of alcoholism are. Let your child attend an AA meeting (I recommend the adult level meetings for better effect). I also suggest you allow your child to witness a DUI court trial. The sentencing can get really tough. Let your child look at his/her association and determine who he/she should be hanging out with.

On a personal note: My husband has a brother who is now in probation in the DUI courts where we live. His parents knew of many families in their neighborhood. One of these is a motivational speaker. He has made millions in speaking on self-esteem and all that jazz. My husband's parents trusted this person years ago. What they didn't realize was that he was promoting an unhealthy lifestyle for his kids and others. He was allowing teens to come to his house and tap an unlimited supply of alcohol.

My mother-in-law is now working on her counseling degree. for the first time, she is having to confront the background of issues dealing with association and peer pressure. She doesn't carry the same regard for certain lifestyles on the surface level.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

get rid of all the drinks you have in your house
dont get the person any money that might go to drinks
try to sit down and talk to your son/daughter
try to get them into meetings (AA)

Answer 5

DONT ALLOW THEM TO DRINK IN YOUR PLACE AND THROW ALL DRNKS OUT AND NOT TO ALLOW ANY BACK IN MY MOTHER WAS BIPOLOR AND DIDNT LIKE TO TAKE HER MEDS AND SHE KNEW IF SHE CAME TO MY HOUSE THE MEDS CAME TOO OR SHE WAS NOT ALLOWED EITHER BECAUSE I TOLD HER I WOULDN'T LET MY CHILDREN SEE HER THE WAY I SEEN HER GROWING UP SO BE FIRM IN WHAT YOU STAND FOR

Answer 6

Tough love my friend. Intervention.