What should i do about my sensitive little boy,help?

Question

He is 2 years old can say abc's can count to20 can have an adult conversation can ask me questions. he is not over active at all he is very causious and easy going he doesnt very offten fuss over anything, when nap time is close he will sometimes get his blanket and say bedtime mommy i worry about him cause he seems to watch people and he knows things other kids dont he seems afraid of other children and ones younger than him the most, I want to help him but i dont even know what to do, Is there even a problem here? He took himself off the soother, the first night i put him in his own room i thought it would be a rough night but he slept all night and will not sleep in my room now even if hes sick, he has pretty much potty trained himself too i showed him the potty let him watch me pee and every since hell say mama potty and i will sit him on it and he pees or poops no problem but interacting with other children is what worries me he seems afraid.

Answer 1

Have you been exposing him to other children? They have play groups you can enroll him in, where you can stay there and play with him. This might be a good idea for your son. It will give him the security of having you there, and still let him be around other kids. I imagine in the beginning he'd stay with you, away from them, but all this time he will be observing, and hopefully seeing how much fun they're having and eventually find a way to start participating. It's worth a shot!

Answer 2

He sounds lovely. You should be really proud. You could try taking him to a playgroup or Mother and Toddler group. It'll probably take a few times before he starts to build up the confidence to play with other children. But try to take him more than once a week because a week is a long time for a 2 yo and the chances are that once a week will not be often enough for him to start feeling comfortable in the near future.

Answer 3

My sister, who is now 21 was very much like this, she was only ever around adults, and again, like your son, very early on grasped all basic functions, reading, questioning, etc, but if another little girl or boy came to play, she would just revert into herself. I am happy to tell you that this all stopped the very day she started play school, there is something about a room full of children that brings out the child in you......dont worry too much, as long as your little boy knows right from wrong, you would have done a wonderful job, when he becomes that little monster coming home from school each day, you will wonder what you ever worried about. Good luck

Answer 4

He seems really sweet and and has an old head on his little shoulders. I wouldn't be worried if I was in your position. As far as other children are concerned, seeing one or two children at a time in your own home might get him use to interacting. You don't say whether he goes to playgroup yet. It may be too much for him to be surrounded by too many children at once, but he's only young, and it doesn't mean he'll have problems in the future. Do things at his pace. He'll be fine.

Answer 5

Count me in with the others who say- count your blessings. He sounds like a very normal, very pleasant little boy. A lot of kids are a little weary of younger kids, that's normal. He will get used to others in his own time,and his own way. Playgroups or Mommy and Me classes(yoga, music, gym etc...) can be great , but please bear in mind that everyone, even kids, have their own individual ability to tolerate groups of people. If your little boy is uncomfortable in a group setting, try taking him to playgrounds, children friendly museums, any where kids gather. That way he can observe others without feeling forced to play with them. My daughter was a very shy toddler, especially with kids (she was more comfortable with adults). She also did a lot of observing, rather than jumping right in and playing. She has always preferred small groups to large ones. She is a teenager now, and this pattern somewhat remains. She is shy, and prefers small groups, but also loves acting (don't ask how that works, I have no idea). One big advantage is she tends to know and follow her own mind much better than others her age, and is less likely to fall to peer pressure(though no-one is immune unfortunately). She makes good friends that remain close. I am very outgoing,and was concerned about her shyness when she was about your son's age, but it all works out!! Best wishes to you and your son.

Answer 6

Dont worry bout him he'll be fine and your lucky that he can do all those things at his age .. have u tried takin him to playschool or the equivelant dont force him to interact he may stand back and watch other children it seem that this is how he learns things.. he'll join in when he's ready... xx

Answer 7

I agree with the other answers - it seems like you have a great little kid there - would you rather he was having tantrums and misbehaving?
As for the interaction, it will just take time, and a bit of rough and tumble.

Answer 8

your boy is still so young and sounds like a complete angel! i really don't think you have much to worry about.

children of your sons age have to learn how to play with other children, and like anything else in life there is a routine he will have to go through first. often, when first introduced to other children, your child will play with toys next to another child without actually interacting. this is because they haven't yet realised that allowing someone else into their 'game' can enhance the play and not spoil it. as he becomes more aware of others and their feelings and interests he will start allowing others to join his play and will try to involve himself in other kids games. this is all natural.

i suggest you look for some kind of parent/toddler play session, that will allow him to integrate with other kids, but will also reassure him of your presesnce. walking into one of these groups can be very intimidating for a parent, but just pluck up the courage and walk in with a smile. people won't stare at you as much as you think they are. talk to other mothers and staff. all the parents there would have started the same as you and will have made the friends they mix with there.

sorry to go. it sounds like your doing a wonderful job as a loving parent. please trust me - i work with pre-school children and part of my job is welcoming parents such as yourself into our playgroup.

good luck!

Answer 9

He sounds wonderful count your blessings! Lots of children are shy at 2. Maybe try having another quiet child to your house to play to help him make friends. We are all different-accept and honour him as he is and he will too.

Answer 10

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