How do I get him to....?

Question

Well, I have an ex, who was expertly good at um, well licking. And my current bf doesn't HATE doing it, but when he does, he's not overly enthused about it and doesn't umm get it quite right. When I try to explain to him or show him, he gets offended and a bit hurt that he can't quite "get it right" So how do I get him to understand how and where I like it without hurting him? PS...I'm shaven, clean and all that good stuff, so I can't figure out why he doesn't go down! My ex LOVED it! And it isn't fair because I ALWAYS suck him off...6 times in one night this past Saturday.....and I was thinking I'd get something in return (other than sex)... :( Please help

Answer 1

Lack of communication in the bedroom is not a good thing. I would usually say to direct him a little. Not barking out commands but saying things in a sultry voice to give him direction. However, you say he takes offense to this. Which is very immature. First of all he has no room to complain. I could never imagine giving that much oral in a week much less a night....LOL. If talking is completely out of the question than the only other suggestions I have would be:
tell him you read a magazine article on the subject and they gave some ideas you have never tried before but that sounded exciting. Ask him to try them out on you. (I think part of the communication problem may be his insecurity. If he thinks that this is something new for you both he may be less offended) Since you say performance is only so~so try getting a cream called Tasty Tingles (made by Bedroom Magic they have a website) It is flavored and when applied to the clitoris WOW that is all I can say is WOW. This makes things tingle down there (hence the name) while giving him a different taste (not saying there is anything wrong with your taste but some men just don't like it) this may somewhat make up for your lack of stimulation and his hesitation. Good luck.

Answer 2

I love going down on my woman. Nothing makes me more harder than knowing she came all over my face. The 69 is the best position out there.
When he wants you to go down on him, tell him we'll do the 69 and that's the only way. Tell him (I'm going to lick your c0ck like I want you to lick me, ok?

Option 2: Put on a porno movie that you know has the guy, going down on the girl in most all sex scenes. If he watches that, he'll learn how it's done.

Option 3. Give me a call if you're in the Maryland area and I'll give you what you've been missing. I love a clean shaven woman. My woman always gets off before me, unless we're doing the 69. Sometimes I get too excited and blow my wad quick. The first one anyway, but the second nut? Ohh my I can go for an hour and then some.

Answer 3

i think its awful ppl tellin u to leave ur man cuz of this.do not do that. practice practice practice. i m not sure what exactly hes doing wrong or if hes in the wrong place or whatever but maybe while he goin down on YOU you can move ur hips where u want him or like "fake" a moan or 2 and say in a wicked sexy voice"harder" or "ooo baby faster" just stuff like that. and if ur goin down on him so much u should be gettin it equally. make things intresting. dont do it to him as much til u hget what u want. ur the girl in this relationship show it. also let him know (this is what i did with my last bf) that sex kinda hurts if u dont get some down there first.

to make him excited moan and groan, and maybe a nice lil outfil would help too!!!

Answer 4

Maybe he doesn't like shaved? Perhaps he needs some incentive. Get a large pair of vice grips and demonstrate on something soft how they sort of crush it. Tell him how really dissapointed you are that he doesn't seem to care about your pleasure while you crush something repeatedly with the vice grips. Shed a tiny tear or two and whimper. If none of this works dump the bum and check out a new model. There are plenty around.

Answer 5

Unfortunately it sounds like your current boyfriend just isn't into that as much as your previous one was. Just like some girls don't like to give oral there are some guys that don't like to give oral. For your guy it sounds like he feels like oral is just something he has always given women just so he can get oral and has never really cared about the oral being good for the woman. The best thing you can do is just keep trying and let him know how much it means to you. He will probably never be as good as your ex but hopefully it will improve over time. Learn to set aside time for learning separately from time for just enjoying sex together. If every time you have sex he feels criticized then it will begin to affect your over all sex life.

Answer 6

Wow - well stop doing it until the favor is returned and maybe you should try some reverse psychology on him... let's see. If you tell him that you want to play a game and he has to tell you exactly what he wants done to him and you should do it... you have to do the same for him. That way he feels erotic about talking dirty plus you get to do the same without hurting his feelings. They like games and they like dirty talk so mix it up a little.

Answer 7

this time when u sleep with him try to do it so cold and don't let him to enjoy it alot and if he asked u the reason tell him sweet heart , try to make me ON c'mon i just was so horny but the way ur doin it ...it was a big turn off , and tell him see i want u to do it for me coz i love that , coz we are supposed to share some feelin, we are supposed to satisfy eachother if not then y i should get a bf , am gonna masturbate the easiest way, and if he got offended just kick his @$$ u know Y? coz i had a bf i used to suck him all over and he used to love that once he told me u know ur so clean ur so cool so perfect but i really don't like to suck it coz it is so awful for a guy to go down on a gurl , i just told him ok whenever u grown up just gimme a col ..and i broke up with him , n he fu(ked him self to get back to me but just said no way ...becoz i think it was a big insult , in sex nothings matter but enjoyin ,,,,what the hell, who am i ? a (ock sucker or some thing to go down there n suck him for 8 hourz n he enjoyin it but when it is his turn he doesn't like it...see when u love some one u love to suck that person all over no matter he is clean or dirty

Answer 8

You have to make him understand that you have the same needs as he does, and if you try about his penis he has to pay you back the "favour". If he likes you than he should like each part of you, don't you think so?

Answer 9

Ask him to take a shower with you and each cleans the other thoroughly. (Unless you are pressed for time, this activity may take a while.)
Go to your local adult store and see what they have to improve the "flavor," so to speak.

Answer 10

well that is something of preference if he dont like he dont like it. its like if he wanted to give it to you from behind and absolutely loved that position and you didnt wouldn't you also feel uncomfortable with the situation. leave him alone or move on or try something different that you both could enjoy.