seeing that you cant care for ur parents anymore ,will you send them to a home!??why not just pay a nurce to come once in a while to care for them ,i dont understand how after ur parents wasted so much time on you and $$$$$ you cant do the same!!i would give the world to have my mom here again and those who do kick them out ,miss treat them!!you have no forgiveness from god if you done this!!
2006-07-31 03:52:24 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Very true Kandy_girl. I would do anything for my parents too. Especially to keep them away from the nursing homes. I have an Aunt who is there now and she just seems to lose the rest of the life she has left being there and her mind seems to slowly go away. There are ways for people to be able to afford home nurses or things like that, they just have to quit having their eyes on themselves and cut back on things like cable or other unnecessary spending to be able to do this. I know cable for me used to be over $70 per month and was a waste of money for alot of channels I didn't even really watch.
2006-07-31 03:59:14 · answer #1 · answered by Roller Coaster Enthusiast 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before I get to deep into this, just let me say that if there was any way possible I would never send my Mom to a nursing home.
Now with that said, I agree that in society today to many children throw there parents into nursing homes and never visit and I think that is appalling, but, there are circumstances where there is no other choice. For example: A parent is just to ill for you to care for, you have to work and cant afford a full time person to watch her.
Some times there is just no other choice, it is great to think you would never do that but then sometimes reality sets in and what do you do. But, even when that becomes the case, you investigate to find the best place and visit often and not always at the same time and you can still afford your parent the best possible care and that they know you love them
2006-07-31 11:14:02 · answer #2 · answered by Joy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never send my parents to a nursing home. But, I can see why some people have had to do that. I have worked in health care for many years and have seen the mistreatment of the elderly and have came to the conclusion that some of them are better off have a stranger take care of them. I have also seen many with no living families and alone. I think this is a hard decision for many and I am glad I will never have to make this decision. I am lucky I have several brothers that will help me when the time comes for me to help care for my parents.
2006-07-31 11:02:43 · answer #3 · answered by spicy girl 1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad had 2 strokes at age 59 and my mom (same age) took care of him AND WORKED FULL TIME for 7 years...she made the decision to put him in a nursing home after all those years of paying out of her own pocket for an aide while she was at work. they had 3 insurance policies and all together they would only pay for FOUR HOURS A DAY for an aide to be with him...tho he needed constant supervision ( he couldn't walk or see very well and could hardly feed himself) ... My father is not very happy about being in the nursing home, tho they treat him wonderfully..but he realizes my mom just couldn't do it anymore alone... When and if the time comes that my mother needs constant care, yes i would consider putting her in a skilled nursing facility, you cannot judge others who have done so.. You do not know the toll it takes on someones life to have a chronically ill person to take care of...Yes I understand your point that your parents took care of you all your life, but if the situation was reversed...I bet your opinion would be different.
2006-07-31 11:19:19 · answer #4 · answered by DRD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't want to send my parents to a home.
My wife works in a home most eves/nights, and I have told her I would not want to go into one myself, and I would be avoiding sending my parents there as much as possible also.
Fortunately, right now, my parents live upstairs, and I hope that we could always look after one another.
[Well, I've just had a heart operation myself; so sometimes the ball can turn onto the other foot!]
But I would certainly hope that we could always provide for our parents, without them going into a home.
I would certainly be trying to 'pull out all stops' on this myself.
2006-07-31 11:04:27 · answer #5 · answered by dr c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some parents never step up, so that in return makes the children resentful when they get older. They carry these pent up feelings of the way they were treated when they were younger, and then lash out by returning to their parents what they did to them when they were younger.
As for me, I would hire a nurse to take care of my parents, because I have seen what nursing homes are like. I worked at one and they were very neglectful.
2006-07-31 10:59:16 · answer #6 · answered by jad26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loook me as a parent I can't expect my kids to take care of me when they are supposed to be taking care of thier own families and getting by on thier pay . Ive seen some nice homes for old people Just if its possible to visit them and not forget them . We older people need to think of our future and tell our kids if it comes down to it and I dont have the means to take care of myself Ill go gladly where there are other people like me . The only thing I ask is you check out the home and see that they do not abuse people !
2006-07-31 10:59:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way, I would never put my folks in an old folks home. If I knew that I couldn't care for my parents I would just hire someone to come to my house and do it during the times that I'm at work.
2006-07-31 11:09:18 · answer #8 · answered by Phenomenal_Black_Woman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother swore she'd never go to a nursing home after we saw how my father had been treated. Now her health isn't what it used to be and we have to have the discussion about having someone look in on her on a regular basis. I don't look forward to that.
I cannot live with her nor have her live with me. Hopefully she can have someone come in, or we might have to make a terrible decision...
Actually I am hoping to live in some sort of facility after I'm 75 or so, just to be sure I'm okay.
2006-07-31 11:00:54 · answer #9 · answered by lrad1952 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We seem to live in a country with disposable values. If something takes too much effort, we get rid of it. Divorce, abortion, old folks homes...
Unless my mother was so ill that she needed 24 hour care, I would take care of her in my home. Medicare will cover some at home visits for nursing and at least at my home I know that she's not being abused and neglected.
2006-07-31 10:59:02 · answer #10 · answered by Tia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋