MEN, does it turn you off when girls makes the extra effort to look more beautiful?

Question

i surprised this guy by wearing some makeup and dressing up to look more feminine. throughout the night, he gave me the cold shoulder, acted as if he's not interested. makeup was light and nothing revealing with my dress.

Answer 1

The greatest problem between to people, one male and one female, seems to be communication. Why are you afraid to talk to your man? Ask him this question in private, or are you looking to see how many males you can attract. A real MAN, needs no enticements or inducements to be attracted to a female. Just open your eyes when your out. You'll see some of the strangest couples, men and women together. Is it make-up, their dress, their features, what is it?
I'll tell you, each is attracted to the other through communication. The longest relationships last thanks to communication. Rather than ask the world this question, ask your man, after all was it not he you wanted to impress.
By the way, if he gave you a cold shoulder when your were so accoutered, then he really like you as you are. He relishes the real woman you first showed him. His actions say, " you don't have to impress me, I've always been impress with you." He was probably thinking that you got dress that evening to impress the other men in the room. I would again suggest, talk to this man, if he is the one you wish to be with!
If he likes you, he likes you for you, not what you wear, or paste on your face.

Answer 2

This is a question that's hard to answer, because it's really a matter of preference among men, but I will give my opinion on why he gave you the cold shoulder. It's possible that this guy you're dating has been around the corner quite a few times in his life, at least enough to know when a girl really wants him. If that's the case, he probably lost interest in you the moment he saw the makeup.

It's crazy, I know, but this happens the same way with women too. If a guy makes the extra effort to dress nice, compliment her more often, open doors for her all the time, etcetera, the girl usually gets turned off, because these are all very basic signs that the guy is interested in her.

Basically, in my experience, when someone gives off these obvious signs to people with plenty of dating experience, it takes the magic away. Think about it. If you know a guy likes you up front, what is left to be gained?

Having said all that, I don't think it's wise to completely rule out the thought that he still likes you, because he probably still does. It's actually more likely that you stunned the guy with your good looks, and he didn't know how to react.

Ironic, because this contradicts the whole point I made before, don't you think? Well, that's what I meant by the whole preference thing. Also, to tell if he still likes you, ask him out on another date some time. If he agrees, you can be fairly sure that the second scenario I mentioned is more likely to be what happened.

Answer 3

With out knowing more about the circumstances, I cannot tell you why he was turned off. Maybe he was shy, or maybe he felt that you were attempting to move into a relationship mode too fast? Or maybe he like you the way that you were when you first met, and seeing you dressed up was a shock to him because he was not used to it?

In an attempt to answer your original question as best that I can: as far as a dress is concerned, in my opinion it is more sexy to leave something to the imagination (gives you an air of mystery). Too revealing comes across as animal, and it makes some men feel weird. A man doesn't always like feeling a strong raw sexual attraction for someone that he does not know that well (unless he is in a slutty mood and he doesn't care about relationships).

Same thing with too much make-up. Putting on so much make-up that one looks like a clown or a raccoon does not attract anyone (well, it attracts the wrong ones). How much is too much? That's a judgment call. Same thing with too much perfume. Sometimes less is more.

Answer 4

I believe that my lady is beautiful all the time. But when she does make a special effort to look more attractive I not only certainly notice it but I am sure to let her know that she looks outstanding. It's sad that your guy didn't acknowledge the extra effort you put in but perhaps he was just having a bad day or something. My lady does not wear makeup and I knew this right from our first date, as she didn't wear any then as to not give false pretences. But the odd time she will put on some lipstick and eyeliner stuff and although the change is very subtle there is a change and I let her know that she looks exceptional. Good luck to you and why not try it once again and see if your guy responds any better.

Answer 5

Sounds like you caught the guy on a bad day. Or perhaps he's an asshole.

If a woman made an effort to dress up or make up for me that would make me feel special and honoured. I would want to do the same in return and I sure as hell would treat her well as a result.

Instead of turning me off it would make me feel closer.

In this case I think you could do worse than ask the guy if something was bothering him that night. You could mention that he seemed distracted or cold with you. If he's a decent guy he'll appologise and explain himself.

Answer 6

hey, I don't like the sound of 'extra effort' there, first of all I think you should be comfortable with who you are before applying anything like makeup, and only using it to suppliment your appearance...

too many girls are conditioned to feel ugly or something without doing something to "fix" their appearance... this is just wrong, I don't believe guys think this way, but make-up is designed to accentuate things like lips and eyes to highlight them and make them even more attractive

sometimes applying makeup to these areas can have the opposite effect, things like heavy eye shadow or black mascara lines running down someone's cheeks or thick black lines around the eyes and stuff is just downright unattractive...

in your case I'm not sure why you were given the "cold shoulder" it sounds almost like you aren't the kind to go overboard, perhaps it wasn't even about your appearance?...

or maybe you just chose a colour he personally didn't like? who knows?...

theres also one other possibility, maybe he felt all that "extra" effort was you putting up a facade... it may have even affected (sometimes without you even realizing it) your behaviour, ie "trying to be sexy" isn't always actually sexy... (emphasis on the word TRYING...) anyhow, don't let one bad experience stop you, perhaps you should show another male friend what you did and ask for tips, chances are what one guy likes another guy will too... (but not ALWAYS there is no definitive here, its a matter of personal taste...)

Answer 7

As long as the lady doesn't look like something from a funeral home, and doesn't spend all evening touching up the makeup, I think it's fine. As far as the dressing, if it isn't something that makes her look ridiculous, that's great. Communicate with him, maybe he was preoccupied with work or other problems.

Answer 8

I see nothing wrong with trying to look nicer and trying to impress the guy. Some guys do get turned off by makeup though.

Answer 9

Yes, it does turn me off when my wife wears makeup. I'm used to her beautiful face and feel uncomfortable when she "hides" it. I almost feel like I'm going out with someone I don't know.

Now, I'm talking about makeup. As for the way to dress, I have no problem with that.

Answer 10

I am not real attracted to person who wear alot of makeup but I do appreciate the effort..its not something that would turn me off...