When I go out I like to party, however whenever my boyfriend and I go out we don't have a good time, we end up fighting and it gets bad. I get all crazy, throwing things, screaming, just acting psychotic....on Saturday night it was really bad...I'm surprised we are even still talking. I don't understand why I can't drink with him. I don't know why I get like that. I've already decided that I am going to stop drinking because I don't want to ruin our relationship - the drinking is just not worth it....but I want to know why I get like this...any ideas???
2006-07-31 03:38:44 · 27 answers · asked by jada_24 3 in Food & Drink ➔ Beer, Wine & Spirits
There are many reasons why this happens. One is that you could be drinking a lot of alcohol. or 2. you brand of alcohol might be the cause of this reaction. or 3. you are allergic to alcohol. When drinking alcohol, there's a chance that reactions like going crazy, sleepiness, blackout or emotional breakdown(crying, singing,etc) might occur. Hope this helps.
2006-07-31 03:49:06 · answer #1 · answered by Justinfire 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to hear of your difficulties with drink. Keep in mind that the very first thing to go downhill after your first drink is your judgement. This is also occuring with those around you that are drinking. From experience, I know that very often things are said that are often true but may have have been better left unsaid. Is not saying your true feelings healthy? No, but try doing it while sober however hard as it may seem.
A false sense of bravado also kicks in while drinking. This is not limited to men. I have been around many a female that started out the evening as a Lady then ended up being a very nasty, ie: bad attitude, loud, etc. person.
Keep in mind that the drink affects people in many different ways. As an example, I have a very good friend that I have known for over 30 years. He is the nicest guy to be around until he gets a few drinks into him, then he turns into an evil, mean and downright piece of s***.
I'm not a counselor, I'm just a guy that has been down the same path as you.
Best of Luck
2006-07-31 03:58:43 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there too. My ex and I used to fight every night. Some about silly issues and some serious. I've found the problem is that perhaps there are some issues that should be discussed and having alcohol as an inhibitor doesn't help the communication ability. Most of the time, comments are misconstrued or misunderstood and the issue grows into more of a problem than it already is. It doesn't matter if the problem is serious or you are discussing a movie - when differences of opinion arise - add alcohol and two stubborn personalities - problems will come about . . . usually in the form of fights.
2006-07-31 03:48:24 · answer #3 · answered by Nientech 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, sometimes our chemistry in our body's just can't handle the ingredients in the alcohol. It is probably best just not drink or if you are at a party just drink 1(ONE) alcoholic beverage... This way you are being involved in the party and still acting ok and you and your boyfriend can go home and be happy together instead of fighting and waking up regretting alot you did the night before this way you know what you did...! Good Luck!!!
2006-07-31 03:46:58 · answer #4 · answered by JACKIE M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are mean drunks. Just something to think about, but some people say alcohol brings the truth comes out. So maybe you are internally hurt/mad all the time and do a good job of hiding it in your everyday life.
Another thought, my wife and I can't talk about anything we disagree on. Anything that we feel differently on we will fight about it like it is the worse thing ever. I mean anything... And I'm thinking of anything I can to figure out how to change this, I think you quitting drinking will fix all your problems though. Or limit yourself to fewer drinks.
2006-07-31 05:33:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing - determine whether it is the alcohol that is affecting you or is it the other ingredients.
Each night, drink only one type of drink. And keep changing after each night.
If you still have the same problems, then it is definitely the alcohol. But if you behave differently after each night, then it is the other ingredients.
I have come across some people who are like that. For example, when he drinks cognac, he gets moody. But when he drinks whiskey, he is so happy.
2006-07-31 04:12:00 · answer #6 · answered by protos2222222 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alcohol affects yr judgement. Some ppl become sad and moody when they're drunk. OThers get funny and cranky. U guys get aggressive. Now it takes extreme control and self disipline to get over this. Share all yr problems together. Don't hide it. If u can't control yrselfs don't drink too much. Its not good for u. If u want yr relationship to work out u hav to work on it. There's no easy way. Make an effort. If u want it to fail its easy. Think about it.
2006-07-31 04:06:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has nothing to do with him, it's you! you can't handle your liquor and dont know when to say enough and stop drinking and just enjoy yourself. If the focus of the night is on drinking then you need to cut back seriously, if it's not, then try going out and having fun without it or cut back on it, besides who needs alcohol, causes too many problems like the ones you listed due to people that can't handle it.
2006-07-31 03:44:10 · answer #8 · answered by distalbicept 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What on earth are you drinking?
Maybe its the drink you are chosing and could be better off if you find something milder to drink.
Try shandy's until you discover, slowly what other drinks you like. Drink slowly and do not knock drinks back on an empty stomach.
Most cases of domestic violence involve Alcohol. Is there any history of this in your family? Be Careful.
Good luck.
2006-07-31 03:43:12 · answer #9 · answered by super_star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good idea. How many times have you decided you're not going to drink again only to find yourself back in the same situation. Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is insanity. Go to AA and listen! God Bless.
2006-07-31 07:31:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋